I don't like upsetting others but it happens

No category for embarrassed myself. In pickleball people stack or line up their raqueta to indicate when it's their turn to play. But I screwed up last week. It was an awkward exchange. I moved someone's racquet BEFORE asking for permission, because someone else said that player had wanted to play with another mixed new group as opposed to playing with my team a fourth time. There was a different team that was short one racquet player so I was getting ready to move her racquet into that spot for her so I picked up her racquet but before I could ask her someone started engaging me in conversation for a while while I was holding her racquet!!! And BEFORE I had a chance to speak to her .... I should have asked her FIRST. It looked like I was just taking her racquet and moving it around with zero consideration because I held it for an extended period of time. Ooh She came up to me and told me to never ever move her racquet again... it felt like she ripped me a new one-- rightly so. It's just so akward! (even tho it was indeed ultimately what she wanted). Of course I apologized thoroughly and realized I should have spoken to her FIRST. Never picked up her racquet...I wasn't thinking clearly... I screwed up because well I just did. Now I have to somehow recover from this humiliation. Its called eating crow? I think. I'm glad she spoke up because I would hate for her to have kept this upsetness inside. I'm just embarrassed and wonder if I'll get over it 99%. Sigh.

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PinkMoon · 26-30, F

I call that a broken plate moment. A broken plate moment is when you hurt someone without the intention to like when someone accidentally breaks a plate. While the damage is there it was not intentional. It happened and you're still alive. If you don't forgive yourself it's equal to being angry at a child for accidentally breaking something,that's an incredibly mean thing to do. Don't be mean to yourself.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@PinkMoon thank youuuuuuuuu!🤗 for your support!

ninalanyon · 70-79, TVIP

She came up to me and ripped me a new one-- rightly so.

Rightly so? Surely a polite "Excuse me that's my racquet." would have been sufficient.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@ninalanyon thanks for your response. It made me re evaluate my writing/post. Actually it only FELT like she ripped me a new one! Sorry. She was angry and said "don't ever move my racquet again" a couple of times. I guess that's not really ripping me a new one. I think it was okay or right for her to say that. Thanks for noticing. I was caught up in projecting my own feelings into the situation. I adjusted my post.

WillaKissing · 61-69, M

You have a good heart, and your heart was in the right place. I think if you get a chance to speak with that woman to explain your intent it would ease all your anxiety over this.

You were not acting out of Malice.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@WillaKissing thank you for understanding.

OverTheHill · 61-69, M

Perhaps they had a major over reaction to the situation. You were trying to be helpful. And if they had been playing with you, that seems like an extremely rude response to a fellow player. Just sayin'.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@OverTheHill ❤

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