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Disappointed with myself still thinking I need to be polite

Went to the Goodwill outlet with my daughter yesterday. There was a man with a cart standing against the wall next to the last bin. I assumed he was probably waiting for his wife with their cart. As I looked through the bin he said something about one of the items i was considering. I told him what is was but language gap got in the way and the coversation felt awkward so I moved on. Few minutes later I was at a different bin on the other side and he was next to me again. He slowly started looking through things too while asking me something about if I had a boyfriend, if I lived alone, etc. I told him I'm married and hoped that would end his interest in me. He came around me a few more times after that and tried talking with me more. I ignored him and would move away.
I stayed alert and watched for him as i left. He obviously wasnt there with anyone and he wasnt seriously shopping for anything, but only made it look like he was.
I was being polite and that was wrong in this situation. I should have looked him in the eye and told him I dont like him talking to me and he will leave me alone or I will get the manager. I missed a good chance for my 13 year old daughter to see a valuable lesson on how to protect her personal safety. It would have stayed with her and helped her in the future.
Am I ever going to get away from this belief of the need to be polite in all situations? Its more ingrained in my brain than I thought.
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Freeranger · M
I think it's fine to be polite with any [i]initial[/i] contact. What's important is the ability to read people. I carry concealed.....having been shot in a robbery attempt eons ago, it was a wake up. At the least, be polite, but be aware is all. I would encourage you to carry repellent with a strong spray stream.
I could go on with the other bits about situational awareness for women, but it would defeat your post I think.
morrgin · F
@Freeranger for women especially ,situational awareness is a constant part of life. In the situation i had the guy was a creep and quite likely dangerous, but for him to become an actual threat he would need one thing - privacy.