I Have Been Thinking About Death

I've been thinking about death lately. Not my own, in general. I'm in a certain situation where It's not really an avoidable thought.
These last days what annoyed me, no, better said enrages me the most is how you're supposed to condense the meaning of a person's life in a few lines. How do you distill the years of information and emotional charge into a few words and feel that you made the right choice? Is it possible to capture their essence into such little information or into a poetical cliche? It's a question eroding at the base of my skull and I try to look away, do something fun, something stupid, anything that can move me away from the sad neighborhood that question lives in but it finds me in seconds and it's crushing my will. I wish it was about me it would be so easy: he was a boring guy and now he's dead.

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MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

You have really made me think...& ok, this isn't about an obituary, as I think those are silly & don't really speak to who someone truly was...
You made me think about..& ok, this may sound peculiar to some, but... a few months ago, as my sister and I packed away my mother's belongings as she was going to live in an assisted living facility (her husband had died & she was having trouble caring for herself), I came to a realization...
My mother had reached a point where those belongings were only 'things' to her. I asked her several times, 'do you want to keep this?'...she'd answer 'no' each time. I had to actually pack up what I thought she actually needed for everyday living for her. I asked about the antique furniture she had ...'which child do you want to give this to?' (She had 5)... and was given a similar response 'it doesn't matter, whoever wants it'. She didn't seem depressed, only unconcerned, as she still does. She hasn't once asked about all the 'things' we had to disperse or give away. She mainly only cares about playing Bingo with the other ladies..Lol.
... I guess my point in all this goes back to the old saying, 'you can't take it with you'... I think my mom knows that & is just living every day & not caring about material things.. as maybe some others have or had reached that point as well.
( I cared much more about those 'things' than she did & it upset me that she didn't mind leaving them)... I know there are those who may say they care deeply for their material possessions... I guess... just bury them with them. 😀