Roundandroundwego · 61-69
Sometimes I think we'll all be together, other times I remember how much my family totally always hated me. I wasted their lives, I was a "patasite" to my unwilling father, my brother used to say -"I hope you die! Poor and alone!"- I don't think I'll bother looking around heaven for them! I'll let them alone. They begged for amnesia when I was alive with them.
Bleak · 36-40, F
I get what you’re saying. Some goodbyes don’t feel like a “see you later” — they feel like something has been completely taken out of your world, and nothing quite fills that space again.
But I don’t think feeling that emptiness means you don’t process grief well. Sometimes it just means you loved deeply, and your mind is trying to make sense of an absence that doesn’t make sense.
For me, it’s both things at once. The loss can feel final in this life — painfully, undeniably final — and still, somewhere inside, there’s a quiet hope that it’s not the absolute end. Not a thin curtain maybe, but not a total void either.
And you’re right about one thing: it does change how you see people who are still here. It makes their presence heavier, more real, more worth holding onto.
Grief doesn’t have one shape. Yours isn’t wrong — it’s just yours.
But I don’t think feeling that emptiness means you don’t process grief well. Sometimes it just means you loved deeply, and your mind is trying to make sense of an absence that doesn’t make sense.
For me, it’s both things at once. The loss can feel final in this life — painfully, undeniably final — and still, somewhere inside, there’s a quiet hope that it’s not the absolute end. Not a thin curtain maybe, but not a total void either.
And you’re right about one thing: it does change how you see people who are still here. It makes their presence heavier, more real, more worth holding onto.
Grief doesn’t have one shape. Yours isn’t wrong — it’s just yours.
CleverGirl · 26-30, F
There is no reuniting with loved ones. Even the Bible claims this.
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CleverGirl · 26-30, F
@AdmiralPrune Well, the Bible makes vague statements. When it claims that the past life is forgotten this could be immediately or after eons. Yet in that the Bible also infers that the spirit is destroyed before being remade I think immediate and permanent loss of memory is what was really taught.
AdmiralPrune · 41-45, M
@CleverGirl Thank goodness I am not a Christian.
CleverGirl · 26-30, F
@AdmiralPrune Neither am I.
Selah ·
They all feel left behind imo. Terrible thought but that's life, I guess.
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