Do you think it is appropriate for a hospice nurse to hint around at how much of a patient’s medication it would take to kill them?

Is this common?

It has happened twice, both coincidentally (?) by nurses over age 60.

My young nurses are sweet and encouraging but are they secretly judging me for not overdosing hahaha

It makes me uncomfortable. I don’t even have to recertify until February. Leave me freakin be.

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Hospice can be a great thing, but there are some facets to it I didn't appreciated when my mom needed it.

You don't need to feel guilty for still being alive. I don't know what their angle is but it's inappropriate. They seemed annoyed that my mom didn't die in the time her insurance allotted 🙄

They're just people and some of them have different ideas about end of life care. But you want to be here with your family and you deserve that more than anyone. No offense to the older generations but they're a little medieval/eff your feelings sometimes.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@ScreamingFox if it’s about money then they need to just kick me off the program? Like that’s wild lol

I’m sorry they made your mom feel guilty for hanging on too. It just feels very sinister in a way and I don’t like it.

No regular doctor is going to give me what I need to be comfortable though I’m kinda stuck.

I love you. Thanks you 💜

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@SwampFlower if it was about money they would of talked to you about it already. I don't know why they would tell you that, unless they think they're doing you a favor? Is it worth mentioning to them that you'd rather not discuss those things?

I think anything medical now has a bit of a sinister side as it's become about profit.

And nurses are just people too, I've met some awful ones.

I love you lady 🖤 you don't deserve these thoughts and feelings, you should just be as comfortable as you can.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@ScreamingFox maybe they did think it was some twisted courtesy but still weird af.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@SwampFlower very weird, inappropriate and unprofessional too. It'd be one thing if you asked but you very clearly want your time. I don't know mamas I'd probably mention it makes you feel uncomfortable.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@ScreamingFox I can see from the outside why it looks like I have no quality of life left. I almost agree with it. But everyone has their own reasons for wanting to stay or go. Seems like someone with that many years of experience in EOL care would get that.

My private caregiver who retired from a hospice agency told me to report them. And I am going to.