Tim had a very good friend in you. The fact that others helped in his last days doesn't change that.

I recently lost a friend who was in his early 30s to Muscular Dystrophy. He was severely disabled by the time I met him, but even so, there was so much of him -- kindness, good sense of humor, generosity that he reached far, far beyond his wheelchair and touched many lives. He made mine better.

I am sad that he is gone. But will always remember that in his relatively short life, he lived more than many people do in a long life. And like you and Tim, people miss him because although he is gone, he is very much still a part of us.

Wishing you well and hoping that you are not too hard on yourself in your grief. Your intentions and feelings are important and you are not alone in this experience of missed opportunity. It is universal.

Sorry for your loss

Quite often their is a very short list of acceptable guests when people are in the hospital like that.

Having been there for that kind of death the procession at the funeral home is a better idea than a procession through the hospital

I think this is a pretty common emotion when processing the death of a loved one. Ive lost my fair share and i think that instead of focusing on what we can't change we can find ways to honor who was important to us.

It can be heart rendering and so telling when you lose someone, what you wished you had done. It's so normal to feel a feeling of guilt when experiencing grief. I'm all for people expressing their love and doing more for who they love, but never let the guilt harm you and instead learn from it. Your words say you are finding a learning, I'm sure your friend would want from you as a reminder and nothing else.

I'm sorry for your loss and know how hard it can be.

Kind one, it is not about how long you spent with them, nor whether it was in sickness or health, joy or sadness... not at all.

It is the depth of the connection, even if experienced for just a moment. That depth can fuel and inspire them for a lifetime.

What you have is deep and lasting, which is why, to this day, you hold them so dear. I am sure they knew you loved them. You will always miss them.

Life often takes us away from family and friends and it's a sad fact that we're often not there at points where we wonder if that was when they may have needed us most.

Even if it was just to be able to say goodbye.

But I've no doubt your friend was well loved and looked after. Despite the feeling that you could or should have done more.

Thank you. Nice words. Appreciated.

Sorry 4 yr loss

I'm sorry for your loss.