I have a funeral to go to and I’m stressed about it.

My uncle passed a couple days ago. Reason I am stressed is cause my mom told me before she passed she did not want that side of the family to be informed when she died (in 2021) so I followed her wishes even though I personally disagreed with them. Anyway, this will be the first time I will have seen that side of the family since then. Should be nice and awkward…

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REMsleep · 41-45, F Best Comment

Awkward is as awkward does. Probably everyone knows that your mom passed away a long time ago so I doubt anyone will use the funeral as a time to confront you over why you didn't contact them and if they do just have a canned statement prepared such as " She was very private and I respected her wishes".
Or " I was grieving as I'm sure you are now"
And then just move the topic along. No need to feel awkward or bad. Be bold.
I think like you also then later I almost always meet people who just know how to do and say whatever they want and live without a care and then I realize that I'm overthinking the situation or caring more than that other person would if the roles were reversed.
Good luck and just stop thinking about it.