I have a funeral to go to and I’m stressed about it.

My uncle passed a couple days ago. Reason I am stressed is cause my mom told me before she passed she did not want that side of the family to be informed when she died (in 2021) so I followed her wishes even though I personally disagreed with them. Anyway, this will be the first time I will have seen that side of the family since then. Should be nice and awkward…

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Reflection2 · M

When some one passed away, the neighbours, work place people, relatives and friends should not wait for an invitation. Every body should be there to say a final good bye. It's actually the culture across the world, like most of Asia and Africa. Even in Russia. Even strangers and by passing( if they have a moment) come to say good bye to decease one and to show compassion to their loved one.
If they know, they should not wait for a invitation. If that's a cultural thing to wait for invite for funerals?

DoubleRings · F

@Reflection2 it’s not that they were waiting for an invite. They were never informed. Except that I published an announcement in the paper, and online after the fact but they never heard from me or my family directly and I think they take that personally. Which it is - for whatever reason my mom didn’t want them to know.

Reflection2 · M

@DoubleRings now I understand. Condolences for the lose.