I don't know you or your situation, but I will tell you what changed my grief to joy, recently. It won't be long before I lose my sister and brother-in-law, at just about the same time, and I had been grieving. Then I was reminded that those in Christ, really never die. We are always alive in Christ, if He is our Savior. And it's never too late to ask the Lord to come into our heart and life, as Savior. That's the beautiful thing. He turns no one away. There is always hope in Christ and the sting is taken out of death, because we're not dying or lost; we're just stepping from one world into the next, and right into the arms of Jesus. I'm so happy I'll see my sister and my brother-in-law again before I know it. And will rejoice as we fellowship again, forever more.

Even if people are in a coma, don't think that they can't hear you. Back in 2005, right before my husband died, he was in a horrible car accident and he was dying. His body was swollen twice the size and they had to take the top part of his skull off so his brain could swell and also cut him right down the middle so his organs could swell. He was now blind. But you know , when I went to sing his favorite hymn to him, he opened his eyes to let me know he heard me and he squeezed my hand. I said the sinner's prayer for him and asked him to repeat in his mind, after me, since he couldn't talk. Rightfully, he should have been passed on because he died at the accident and they life-flighted him to St Louis Missouri, operated on him for 8 hours and brought him back. That was an answer to a prayer that I had been praying for him all those years, that God would never let him die, until he accepted Jesus as his Savior. I believe God answered my prayers. There's no way that man should have made it because he was bleeding from his ears and everything. But he knew enough to know that I was there and I was praying for him and singing his favorite hymn, so it's never too late to give our hearts to the Lord. I believe I'll see my husband in heaven. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I really feel for you. I don't know you or your partner, but I'll be praying for you both, as well.

My Christian brother in Christ, Mktonght, is so right. For those in Christ, death is both a time we know our loved one will be missed, but also a time of celebration, knowing our saved loved one, is with the Lord, and their transformation, is swallowed up in victory, because of Christ and His Resurrection and free plan of salvation.

🌹 Hugs

It takes time.

You need to understand, it's part of life.

Life is a journey, and everyone has it's own journey. You started alone, many people joined you in your journey, you liked some and you didn't like some. Everyone has it's own entry and exits. But you have to move on and continue your journey.

I am 74 years old and have been through 2 sets of parents, a nephew (He was 18 when he died),
Grandparents, my sister (she was only 48), and more friends than I can even count sitting here.
Also, i am a Christian Counceller that works with men and woman out of Prison almost all have had drug problems. I have been through 11 of them in the past two years from overdoses.
My point is everyone dies. It is as much of a part of life as living. The difference is that their passing is sad, and they are missed, however the majority who have excepted Christ will live again and we will be with them for eternity.
A Christian Funeral is a celebration of life, life eternal in Heaven.
There is no way to fully understand this unless you try to open up your heart to God. There is no downside to asking God to come into your life and let you feel His present. If I am right, there is a new eternal life for you, if I am wrong, you have lost nothing except letting your heart open up.

You can't ever prepare yourself for someone who's passed or is dying. Part of you goes with them, but a part of them stays with you. And you carry on because life doesn't stop for anyone, but by this, you honor them with whatever you do and by keeping them close to your heart. You continue to live, and so do they in you. I'm sorry you're going through something like this though. Much love. 🤗🤗🤗

I had to keep going because of my son. But if anything ever happened to him, I wouldn't bother to live anymore.

I think you have to keep going in order to honour their life and do your best to live yours to the fullest extent possible.

I don't believe in any form of life after death so there would be no point in me trying to join them, all I can do is keep their memory alive and live for them as they didn't get that chance.

I don't know whether this is a question asked for idle curiosity but if it's not please PM me if you want to talk, I seem to think my phone plan has international minutes on it or we could email if you need someone to vent or talk to.

As long as loved ones stay alive, they can keep the memory of someone alive.

A part of us does die with them 😞

You take that love and you live with it for that person who cannot. That is the greatest gift. Love that never ends.

Part of you dies, in the bond you have. But new opportunities and bonds will form.

By knowing it's only their body that's dead, and that you still have connection.

I had to take care of her kids after she died.

I know how to revive the dead. So im not in any rush