Don’t you think life means just closer to death?

We all are going to die and when we die people will forget we existed. Life is filled with struggles and we are just living to die. We are hoping we die in peace without pain emotionally and physically. In my religion it is stated that life is fleeting so always know death is close. We are not taking youth , beauty or wealth with us to the grave even if we have all that. We just strive to live a decent life and be good until we die. Sometimes we fail miserably trying to be good. Life causes us to become bitter and rough. People bring out the worst in us, especially in my case.

But it helps to not complain and try to improve your life. Staying bitter is painful.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

I have the philosophy that I live to live. Death is inevitable. It is what we do with our lives that matter. It is individual. Life is about learning, growing, evolving to me. I hope to become the person I was always meant to be. I provide light for others. They give me light too. If I may help others, that is my role. Love is a large part of my life. I do not currently have a partner, but I have love nevertheless. People are people. I do not let others control me. I control how I react. That is my choice. Bitterness and hatred and the rest are negative emotions. I strive to be positive, realistic, loving, and kind. You have had major traumas. It is far more difficult for you to be lighter and happier. Doesn't mean you cannot be. I wish you time and better experiences with people as well as a heart that opens bit by bit. I hope my words create thought, Destiny.

SW-User

Thank you for your reply. I really admire you perspective about life. I just wish I was more positive long ago but I wasted years dwelling in the past. As you get older it seems the less opportunities you have to improve your life. I’m not happy with the outcome of my life. I just hope it gets better not worse. I will try to stay optimistic when I can and ignore the negative thoughts that invade my mind constantly. @PoetryNEmotion

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SW-User Thank you for posting originally. I am always interested in hearing how others think. Pain issues cause me to complain. It is part of becoming older. Counting my blessings daily and nightly helps. And there are others worse off then me for sure. Perhaps it is not so much that one has less oportunities, but one gets more rigid in how one lives or approaches life and its situations. Habits. Lifestyles. Thoughts. Etc. Negative thoughts? There are several ways to handle them. You can try the stop method. Whenever you have a negative thought, you stop yourself. Ask yourself "does this thought help me? and "is this thought useful ie does it serve a good purpose?" If not, then adjust your thinking. It take practice like any habit. There are other methods. You can google them. Some people wear an elastic on their wrists. And when they have negative thoughts, they snap the elastic. It distracts you. Again give it time. I think that you realize that you have negative thoughts; they can change with lots of effort; and you would be happier with positive change. I hope some of this helps. Your name itself is hopeful. Many here have negative names. Good luck. I am happy to chat with you.

SW-User

Thank you for the positive advice. The negative and sad thoughts just drain my mind and body. I really have to stop thinking about things I can’t change or past mistakes. They are pulling me down. I’m going to try my best by occupying myself with activities and positive thinking. @PoetryNEmotion

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SW-User Living in the past is not where you want to be. Look back only to see how far you have come. You know these words. You have to live them. That takes courage. Do you have a close friend? Someone you respect and admire and care about? Would you talk to her using the words or thoughts that are stuck in your mind? No. You would not. So why say them to yourself? It serves no good purpose. Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns. It can be pretty damn messy as you already know and even worse. Only you can change how you think and react . Please try hard. I would like you to be much happier and content in life. You have lots of time, Destiny. Use it wisely. Good night.

SW-User

@PoetryNEmotion Thanks for your kindness. You really are a caring person which is rare in this site. I will try to be happy . I don’t want to waste anymore time being unhappy. Good night

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SW-User Destiny, pop by if you need my words. There are more caring people here than you realize. Good night.