what does it mean in times where you 'get angry' because you're not getting the responses from people you want

I think that’s the time that you need to look inside yourself and find out why you feel the need them to respond in the way that makes you feel OK or doesn’t make you angry. I think that you need to step back and see their point of view on whatever it is and understand why they respond or react the way they do and just because somebody has their own opinion of the situation doesn’t mean it’s going to be the same as yours.

I also think you’re right in that you must feel the need to control them. I also feel that you need to have a little bit more empathy and put yourself in other people’s shoes.

you're living more in their head than you are your own