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Holding it in does count in the sense that it matters.
It has the advantage of giving you more time to work out how to resolve the issue constructively.
Whereas passive aggression, exploding, blaming, verbal abuse or violence will all make the situation far worse.
One can still have anger issues if means you are chronically stressed, have a low trigger,
and spend an uncomfortable amount of time raging in your head (ie obsessive thought about your rightness and everything that they've said or done wrong or anything else you dislike or hate about them.
This doesn't apply if you are on the receiving end of gaslighting, verbal or any other kind of abuse or coercive control. If that's the case, your anger should be providing you with the energy you need to work out how to get out of that situation as quickly and silently as possible. Ask for help from people you trust to keep your new location a secret. Change all your addresses, phone numbers and point of contact. Don't give them even one opportunity to reach you.
If you are holding in masses of anger it is seriously bad for your physical and emotional health.
It's important to do whatever is necessary to resolve the situation. It takes emotional intelligence to work out the best means. If you feel you need help there's no shame in asking a professional psychologist-counsellor. Unless the issue is deep, one session should be enough. Or you could try ringing one of the free helplines.
It has the advantage of giving you more time to work out how to resolve the issue constructively.
Whereas passive aggression, exploding, blaming, verbal abuse or violence will all make the situation far worse.
One can still have anger issues if means you are chronically stressed, have a low trigger,
and spend an uncomfortable amount of time raging in your head (ie obsessive thought about your rightness and everything that they've said or done wrong or anything else you dislike or hate about them.
This doesn't apply if you are on the receiving end of gaslighting, verbal or any other kind of abuse or coercive control. If that's the case, your anger should be providing you with the energy you need to work out how to get out of that situation as quickly and silently as possible. Ask for help from people you trust to keep your new location a secret. Change all your addresses, phone numbers and point of contact. Don't give them even one opportunity to reach you.
If you are holding in masses of anger it is seriously bad for your physical and emotional health.
It's important to do whatever is necessary to resolve the situation. It takes emotional intelligence to work out the best means. If you feel you need help there's no shame in asking a professional psychologist-counsellor. Unless the issue is deep, one session should be enough. Or you could try ringing one of the free helplines.