is it ok to be a 'shut in'

i live most of the time indoors, i don't like going out, i'm happiest when i'm at home and i like it....but sometimes i think that i'm missing out by staying in constantly.....one thing i realize is i won't find a partner by staying indoors.....but one of the main reasons why i don't like going out now is i don't like people or society, the way things are now...so i want to avoid it and avoid getting stressed out with people.

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Punches · 46-50, F Best Comment

After a point in life, going out to "have fun" seems like a chore. Dealing with crowds, traffic, bs...

It is not like there is anything new under the sun anyways. Same city, people, problems, etc.

For finding a partner - by this age, most people are settled into their lifestyles and are not looking for someone to disrupt everything then walk out one day like the relationship never was.

In our youth we have all these hopes and dreams. Most of it never happens. We know what the world is really like. We want to do or have something but ANY little slip-up ruins everything.

Now the only thing we have to look forward to is old age. We just try to get there with the least damage possible.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@Punches thanks for your points of view and what you put is true in many ways, thanks for answering.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

With the loss of Vickie and my age I have chosen to be that way. There's nothing for me out there. I agree with @Punches reply.

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Gibbon · 70-79, M

@Punches All situations avoidable when retired and able to stay home. My critters keep me company.

Punches · 46-50, F

@Gibbon I told someone this on another thread but at this point I keep thinking, "What is one suppose to be doing with their life at this point (50)? Does it even matter?"

When I was in my 20's and knew everything, I thought older people were just cr4zy when they talked about certain things, the same things I now think about. Like what comes after, or "there has to be more to life than this" etc.

Ya know here is one - so today we have the web which we can kind of reach out, even with some of the BS that happens online.
What did lonely and isolated people do to curb loneliness before the web?

Mr Gibbon I am not going to lie, I often feel like I am getting old before my time. 😬

Gibbon · 70-79, M

@Punches I was older than you when I met Vickie. She was at the top of your age bracket. I never thought about another relationship when it happened but fortunately it was the best of my life and the kind few will ever know.
But I had that feeling about aging before then and still have it now. At some point in the past I never thought I'd see 70+ yet here I am wondering how much time I have left. I don't actually give much thought about what I'm going to do with it.
I spent a lot of time alone before we had all this tech and was fine. Of course I was younger and always finding something to do on my own.
I'm guessing if we didn't have or know about these things we would be better off than we imagine because we wouldn't know any different and we would probably have continued getting out into the world where society was much different than it is now.

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

You need to go out

Gibbon · 70-79, M

@Jenny1234 He said it. He doesn't like going out. Many of us reach that point in our life. It takes motivation and effort that in my case is gone. I completely understand what he is saying and agree yet he's correct about meeting a partner. That's something I've put out of sight. No one can replace Vickie.

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