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Bit of advice. Probably unwanted for some 🤷

While I understand women's periods can be painful. Some women do suffer more than others
Why though....does everyone need to know how you are, whilst on it?
Seriously.....just get on with it. Usually the discomfort and emotional roller coaster doesn't last any longer than 7 days .
Pull your big pants up and deal with it .
It's not the end of the world.

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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

People have different ways of dealing with (different kinds of) pain. Some people complain more than others, some have a lower threshold for pain than others. While I understand that constant complaining seems exhausting, imagine how much more exhausting it is for them. Sure, nobody needs to know, like nobody needs to know about their grandma's back and knee pain or their husband's prostate cancer pain. But humans are social beings, and expressing our pain is natural and often even helpful. Even crying exists for a reason, like every other biological aspect.

discomfort and emotional roller coaster doesn't last any longer than 7 days

you forgot to add: per month. Imagine 1/4 of your month being in discomfort. One fourth of your year.
I understand lacking empathy at some point for people you might not be that close with, especially if you're not in healthcare. So of course for you it's not the end of the world. Also I'm glad you wrote this here, on an anonymous site, and (hopefully) don't go around complaining to others about how they deal with pain. I wish everyone's struggles were as small as yours.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HannibalAteMeOut I mean she's bitter over random strangers sharing their painful experiences , I say she has lots of issues, that she denies.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@HannibalAteMeOut As a woman knowing full well what it's like. I choose not to tell all and sundry. There's no need to. Being empathetic has nothing to do with it. This is online, they're not in hospitals or at the drs. There's specific sites where women can talk about this stuff. My point.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

@Purplerain78

There's specific sites where women can talk about this stuff.

And it can be done here too, where other women can relate to experiences. Pretending otherwise is just you being deliberately obtuse. If you don't like it, too bad, and get a clue lmao

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@deadgerbil She's all about negative attention. (She just posted a transphobe post)

She'll not have much attention left after keeping up with these hate posts, we might be many different personalities in here, but we have one thing in common, we don't want haters or bitter people clogging up the community with their stink.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Purplerain78 "There's no need to"

According to you, who made you Queen of universal needs?

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Purplerain78 you know being a woman doesn't mean you experience it at the same level. You don't know another person's threshold. Like imagine someone with prediabetes saying they know what a diabetic is going through and thus they shouldn't be complaining.
Pain takes a huge toll on our mental health. This site is for expressing all of our thoughts, struggles, feelings. Just because one of them has to do with the womb and not another organ, it doesn't make it inappropriate to talk about.
Maybe go on sites where people don't talk about their issues at all if that's your problem.
Tbh at first I didn't even realize you wrote this about a post on here. I genuinely thought you had some coworker or something that constantly complains about it lol. Now that makes your post even worse than I thought.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HannibalAteMeOut I can't believe the irony of a woman telling another woman that women are people 😂

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@HannibalAteMeOut Read my above replies. If you still think SW is the place for serious advice and support, good luck with that one.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Purplerain78 serious advice, not really. Because if you consider "suck it up" as serious advice... And some people aren't after serious support in the first place, they just need to vent. What others think about this site should be irrelevant to you.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@HannibalAteMeOut My post is a bit of advice. I said women seeking support should seek help from those going through similar on supportive sites that cater to women's needs. Helps if you actually read what's put.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Purplerain78 no, you didn't mention any other helpful sites on your post. It's not advice, it's quite malicious, or seems like it to most of us. Maybe try on wording your advice more gently, it will work better.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Purplerain78 If you're not native in English and translated weirdly just explain it in another post that you struggle with English and meant that if a woman needs health help with her period to rule out endometriosis etc, they can see a doctor like I did.

Although. The OP about her period cramps was just venting. Didn't you understand that? Venting is healing to many people.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@Queendragonfly I'm from the UK. We invented the English language. You've more than proven my point. Clearly you don't read posts properly.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Purplerain78 Then there's no excuse for this condescending language in your post other than you sucking things up so you want others to suffer in silence like you.

We won't.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Purplerain78 well then because we aren't native, please tell us where in your post did you say anything about helpful sites for women's health. I saw something about "pull your big pants up"... maybe that expression translates to that lol.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@Queendragonfly okie dokies then.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HannibalAteMeOut Even I'm better at support posts and my English sucks ass ask @MartinTheFirst

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Queendragonfly bit of advice for you: [*posts absolutely no advice*]. Thank me later.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

@Purplerain78

My post is a bit of advice. I said women seeking support should seek

You're openly lying. Your post makes absolutely no mention of any other sites or advice

All you do is say they should suck it up and that periods don't last super long

For someone who says they are from the country that invented English, you are very committed to failing at basic communication.

I can only speculate as to what your issue is, but it probably aligns with having a room temperature IQ.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HannibalAteMeOut It's fascinating to see her venting about how others shouldn't be venting.

Purplerain78 · 46-50, F

@deadgerbil Clearly your generation struggles with common sense. Even if I didn't mention seeking support in the initial post, isn't it obvious SW isn't the place for serious advice?! The fact it had to be spelt out tells me that you and the others having a fit over this, have seriously low intelligence.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

@Purplerain78

Even if I didn't mention seeking support in the initial post, isn't it obvious SW isn't the place for serious advice?!

Yes, bc other people who go through the same issues clearly aren't on SW and can't offer support.

You can find a bunch of people who can relate to various issues, and you specifically can find a lot of slow people who can relate to you.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@Purplerain78 so you actually did not write this post as advice, but simply to complain about how others deal with their issues, something that doesn't affect you. For your age, you seem hella confused and immature.

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@HannibalAteMeOut she wrote it to complain about people complaining

It’s ironic

Silly

Preposterous! 😛

This is the internet… people are gonna say/post what they like. I got hated on a while ago for being on here as a mother…

People wanna point their finger at anyone else and say “wtf!?!?”

It’s exhausting and sad

sarabee1995 · 26-30, FVIP

@HannibalAteMeOut I know we don't know each other well and don't really chat, but I just want to thank you for being you. I see a lot of your comments and replies here and really respect your perspective. ❤️

@Purplerain78 Similar Worlds is in many ways derivative of the original Experience Project site. And while SW doesn't publish a raison d'etre the way EP did, EP specifically existed so people could seek out support from people (not doctors or therapists, but people) who'd had similar experiences. So, yes, this is exactly the place to talk about what ails us, even if it's personal in nature like periods. The great thing about this place and places like it is that if you don't like a post you have the option to scroll on by.