Post About Abortion..

I feel like a lot of the people that are so passionate about the issue do not actually care about the topic as much as they make out. I think that a lot of times people attack others with opposing opinions because of their egos more than it is about believing abortion is okay or not okay.. they don't want to change minds they just want to pick teams and that is why they can't be civil.

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4meAndyou · F

Relentless or abusive arguments are a good reason to use the block button, IMO. I have my opinions also, but I really hate to argue and can't stand to be abused.

missyann · 56-60

@4meAndyou I'm not trying to be a smartass, I truly want to understand. How can an adult be abused by words on social media ? I'm not talking about bodily threats or a child.

4meAndyou · F

@missyann No problem. I will explain. I was physically and verbally abused [i]as[/i] a child, then married three husbands who were each abusive in their own way, and divorced them. I now have PTSD to a minor degree. My older brother has it, also.

Both of us are the same, (my brother and I), in that we now react extremely poorly to stress of any kind. It's what we [i]perceive[/i] as stress that causes us to go into PTSD mode.

My brother and I both have ulcers, I used to get panic attacks, my brother was unable to chair his department at Michigan State because he would get SO freaked out at the realities of political infighting. He had to resign as chair. He is [i]able[/i] to cope with major things in his life, (such as his spouse enduring a quadruple bypass surgery, a water heater flood in one of their homes, and a hurricane evacuation ALL in the same month), but can't deal with verbally cruel or abusive people.

Both of us are functional, yet dysfunctional...(I know...a contradiction), but we both recognize our triggers and AVOID them. One of my triggers is abusive language...( crude swear words directed at me or my friends). My profile "about me" mentions this. I was pretty traumatized during my 2nd and 3rd marriages, and the third marriage was the worst of all. In the first and later days, It was like being married to a violent insane gorilla with the mouth of a nasty construction worker.

I have forgiven, tried to forget most of it, and I have moved on to a safe and isolated life, and yet all I need to do is read abusive language on this site, toward me or my friends, and the stomach clenching and racing heart begins again.

I am sorry my explanation is so long, but...you did ask.