If I ever want to have a child...
I will adopt. It's simple as that. Doesn't matter where they're from because I'll love them all the same.
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CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
Man. I wish adoption was simple. It's really not. Of course may be different in the US.
In Canada, you have two options - public or private. Public adoptions are kids who have been forcibly taken from their families. Frequently the children are survivors of abuse and very likely to have fetal alcohol spectrum disorder, and if they're older a near guarantee of abuse and neglect. These kids need love more than anyone, but that's a hell of a first-time parenting decision.
There's also a major issue of babies being taken en masse from native homes, and being adopted out to white couples. So even if those kids need homes, there's a kind of a theft of a generation there.
Private adoption costs 10,000 at the bare minimum.
Soo... my wife and I are looking at this situation going wtf we just want a baby.
In Canada, you have two options - public or private. Public adoptions are kids who have been forcibly taken from their families. Frequently the children are survivors of abuse and very likely to have fetal alcohol spectrum disorder, and if they're older a near guarantee of abuse and neglect. These kids need love more than anyone, but that's a hell of a first-time parenting decision.
There's also a major issue of babies being taken en masse from native homes, and being adopted out to white couples. So even if those kids need homes, there's a kind of a theft of a generation there.
Private adoption costs 10,000 at the bare minimum.
Soo... my wife and I are looking at this situation going wtf we just want a baby.
Of course adoption isn't simple. I was just saying that if I theoretically wanted a child, the only option I would choose would be adoption. If adoption doesn't work out, then I'm not going to have a child.
I may also just try to adopt from my country of birth, because then I could probably find a more comprehensive background on the child that way. Also considering how said country is, there's going to be less likely of a chance for the child to have the issues you listed.
I may also just try to adopt from my country of birth, because then I could probably find a more comprehensive background on the child that way. Also considering how said country is, there's going to be less likely of a chance for the child to have the issues you listed.
CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M
@TyphoidJerry: I understand that. I didn't think you were being condescending. 😊
DanielChristensen · 46-50, M
Xena1234 · 51-55, F
And, that is your right. But, know you will never know what you are actually getting when you do that. And, you are basically stuck with the kid once you adopt, no matter what emotional problems and/or genetic problems the kid might have.
Those are similar to the risks you run having any child at all since most people don't get their genome evaluated before conceiving a child of their own, so... Not trying to sound rude, but whenever you either create a child or adopt a child you never truly know how that child is going to turn out, right?
Xena1234 · 51-55, F
@Killers: No, not similar at all. When you have a biological child, at least you are somewhat familiar with the family history. When you adopt you might as well be playing Russian rootlet.
@Xena1234: Just because you're familiar with the family history, doesn't mean the child is completely immune to a genetic defect that didn't affect prior generations. Also, being familiar with the family history doesn't mean you can predict how the child will develop under your care.
Do you think when people adopt they just throw a random baby at you? Most adoption agencies (especially those in the United States) not only find a child (or even several children) who fit your situation but they also provide as much background about the child as possible. Have you ever adopted before? It doesn't sound like you're speaking from experience at all, since a ten second Google search debunked your argument.
Do you think when people adopt they just throw a random baby at you? Most adoption agencies (especially those in the United States) not only find a child (or even several children) who fit your situation but they also provide as much background about the child as possible. Have you ever adopted before? It doesn't sound like you're speaking from experience at all, since a ten second Google search debunked your argument.