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Can you all explain why if a person fails in something, he is blamed or said to make excuses even if there are external reasons too?

So I will give 2 examples of my life situations here. So during my undergraduate years which was in Electronics Engineering, I ended up getting 9-10 backlogs(failed in 9-10 subjects). Yeah I failed in 4 subjects during 2nd year, 3 in 3rd year and 2 in final year. Yeah I know I failed but there there were also external reasons behind those backlogs. Our engineering college and syllabus was affiliated under VTU(Visvesvaraya Technological University which is a public State University in Karnataka of India) which was vast and heavy especially in electronics engineering which was hard honestly, plus our college as in Kanakapura road which was at outskirts of our city Bangalore in India and over 40 km away from our home so I had to do long commutes which was frustrating and had to face the infamous Bangalore traffic jams especially in this junction named Silk Board so that made many of my studies evaporate from the brain before going for exam due to the stress and also Covid pandemic means many of the classes were online too and I couldn't understand many of the topics so that's another reason why I ended up failing in exams. I wasnt able to memorize the topics and most were theoretical.

It was so hard. Online classes aren't the same as offline so yeah I had a hard time studying and every topics would evaporate from my brain and the Electronics subjects were tough and hard. So yeah these were also reasons why I failed but somehow people think I made excuses even though it was also because of the vast VTU curriculum, how tough some of the Electronics engineering subjects were, the long commutes, the Covid pandemic and the online classes were. Same with the job search too. People think I make excuses that I am 25 and searching for a job for over a year and done with MBA several months ago but there are also external factors as well like how hard the job market is especially in India even in a major city like Bangalore for entry level roles especially in Business Analytics and several streams, the immense competition, the ATS filtering resumes, hiring freeze, ghosting which is not in my control etc. It's just hard to get an entry level job off-campus. I am trying, applying regularly, attending interviews, asking friends to help and network but still facing ghosting and all. But there are also factors like hiring freeze, less vacancy, lots of job seekers increasing competition, a tough job market and many more yet I am still blamed or seen as making excuses. Why?
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Wyldon · 61-69, M
Regardless of all the stressors (barriers) you stated, the common-denominator is you. However, the blame for your lack of academic achievement is likely driven more by cultural expectations than your academic aptitude. For example, China, Japan, Singapore, South Korea, and especially INDIA (engineering), for example, place an extremely high value on academic excellence and high intellectual achievement. Some measure such achievement as an indicator of self-worth and personal character, as everyone is expected to meet such high expectations (short of a medical or psychological detriment preventing). To not do so, culturally-speaking, is shameful and warrants mockery and condemnation--like you've undoubtedly received.

The traffic, covid, online studies, etc. aren't likely the problem. Oh, they exacerbate the problem, but they're not the cause. Nor are the cultural stigmas for an engineering student in India failing time after time to make the grade.

You likely just don't want to be an electrical engineer and desire more liberal-minded, less technical-minded (contrary to your Indian culture), endeavors. Of course, liberal arts studies in India is still a social stigma, perhaps not as bad as it once was.

It matters not how many millions of Indians have high academic achievement in engineering. Your brain isn't a failure; your brain is just wired for something that a technically-oriented mind is not...and couldn't comprehend, as you don't comprehend electrical engineering.

You just need to identify what it truly is, if you don't already know, then pursue it until you achieve. And when you do, the measure of your worth, your character, will not be measured by your academic achievement, but what you choose to do with it...and this is where MOST high achievers ultimately fail.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
Because we expect adults to take accountability instead of blaming others. It's time to grow up, dude. This behaviour of yours is no longer cute or a phase you might be going through. It's time to toughen up and make things happen in the world the way it is, not the way you wish it could be.

Be accountable.
fact1234 · 46-50, M
@MarkPaul this guy needs help, for your sanity don't respond to his AI generated posts.

 
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