I find it really hard to believe my mum has heavy narcissistic traits

Even though it makes logical sense, I always feel like it can't be true.

I know she is still a human and she became that way due to things out of her control, and she lived in a time where it was much harder to get support

But I have to accept based on evidence that she had a lot of very bad traits.

She DOES have good traits as well. But overall I have to make the decision not to speak to her because she is not good for me.

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twistedrope · 26-30, M

I've cut off both parents for similar reasons. One is an alcoholic narcisist and the other was an absent drug addict now suffers from delusional paranoia.

It is healthy to make this decision. I work to get the needs to maintain this situation. I hope your safe and good! It's hard, dulls down a bit but takes years to be okay with it. At least for me it does.

MyMonstersAreReal · F

I recently made that decision myself. Im hoping I’ve the strength and courage to stick with it

Selah ·

Its a complicated situation 😔

Mrnotsonew · 56-60, M

Have to do what is best for you.

0uijaFinger

I was around 38 when I realised this about my mum. I also blamed her for a lot of downfalls and snapped out of it quickly. She is a product of her culture and upbringing. She does also have beautiful traits. But they dont always show

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

People contain multitudes and if the bad outweigh the good in a way that inflicts damage on your nervous system things speak for themselves. It's never easy when it comes to parents because they were our whole lifeview and the way we saw the world, until we didn't.

caccoon · 36-40

@HijabaDabbaDoo yes 💙 I am still grateful for who and where I am in life and I recognize she nurtured me in the ways she could, based on her skillset

ReptilianFromPlanetCrush · M

it has always interested me in what makes people become narcissistic. from everything i have read, it seems as though they were molded by people and situations around them. sad to see people that way and many have no awareness at all the harm they cause.

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