Do you think it's okay to voice profound fears Or does that invite negativity in life? Every...

LadyGrace · 80-89

I don’t think it’s wrong at all to voice your fears. Sometimes just getting them out of your head and into words can bring a lot of relief. You’re definitely not alone in feeling that way, especially with big life changes as time goes on—it can make the future feel uncertain. That's definitely understandable. I've noticed a lot of changes since I turned 80, as well. Things I wasn't expecting so it can be challenging.

Since you’re anonymous, sharing here can be a safe outlet, and you might even receive some helpful encouragement or perspective. I would just be mindful about who you engage with—you never really know who is behind a screen. To be safe, I think I would just take the advice and not engage with the person unless you know them of course.

You might enjoy reading The Gift of Years. It’s full of thoughtful reflections on facing uncertainty, navigating change, and finding calm and meaning when life feels unpredictable. Many people find it comforting and encouraging in times of fear or doubt.

I do understand and I hope you feel better soon. ♥🫂

ninalanyon · 70-79, T

Voice them to whom?

To yourself? Certainly you should because only then can you dismiss them.

To others? Perhaps it depends on whether you can trust those people to have your best interests at heart. Or you do it anyway and discover early who really matters to you.

The future comes whether you will it or not. You can choose whether to interpret your fears as negative or as rational concern to be acted on.

Mamapolo2016 · F

First, anything that doesn’t violate SW rules is legitimate posting. If I don’t want to read it, I can just scroll by.

Second, secret fear is immobilizing. We just want to hide in a closet, which is neither comforting nor effective.

Third, fear is not silly. It’s a real biological reaction to threat. Whether those threats are real or imagined is a different question.

You may find that some others share your fears, and some may even have suggestions to help manage it. Or change it.

I’m scared too. Maybe not for the same reasons, but scared. But I’m not 58. I’m 75 and my fate will be self-limiting. It’s my daughter and family that I fear for most.

Iwillwait · M

Give your fears to the Lord, not here .

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Yes, I think it is okay. But you also need to be careful how much you reveal about yourself on social media sites like this to not become a target for scammers or something like that.

nojudging · 61-69, M

Voicing your fears can be a good way to address them. Sometimes it’s best just doing it on your own. Doing it with others can often lead to people minimising and/or simply dismissing your fears because it’s easier than listening or being constructively supportive So if sharing be careful with whom. If you find the right person/people it can be really up lifting.
All the best

Musicman · 61-69, M

I do occasionally. Especially for hurricanes and bad weather.

bijouxbroussard · F

Not talking about concerns doesn’t make them disappear, I’ve found. Discussing them with other people can be helpful or problematic, depending on the feedback. But occasionally another poster can offer a more comforting or constructive perspective.

Nunki · 31-35, F

If you’re anonymous you should be fine. It helps to get things off your chest sometimes.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

Write whatever you wish.
Just don't take any flak from anybody who might see it as an invitation to be nasty or rude.