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Life. It's all about perspective

June 30th will mark one year out of work.

I've been out of work three times in the last six years due to budget cuts--no fault of my own. Prior to that, I had worked for 31 years.

Unemployment just ran out. I've had many interviews, but no offers. Time to dip into savings, which was supposed to be my retirement.

Maybe retirement is now, though I am not completely there financially.

I can't lie, it's difficult to keep a chin up. Sometimes, though, all it takes is perspective.

Since I awakened this morning, I read the story of a man who woke up blind in one eye. He's been in hospital for a while and his health is not good. Another video I watched was analysis of an interview with director Rob Reiner and his son Nick. For those unaware, Nick murdered his famous father and mother during a possible psychotic episode. Many of my former coworkers are just getting by, having landed a job that is literally half of what we made previously.

Everywhere you turn, loss. Death. Hardship. Unimaginable suffering.

As of this post, thankfully, that's not me. My health is, despite some weirdness, good. I'm able to play music and make some money doing it(though not a lot). I'm engaged to my soul mate as of May last year; she's my ride or die. And I do have some irons in the fire. I also have a song to record. I didn't write it, but the concept was mine and I'll be both coproducing and drumming on it and it will be done by the fall.

Is this a lull in life? Absolutely. It stings, even hurts. But it could be 50x worse. I'm enjoying my little "vacation", yet I'm hoping it will be over soon. One more phone call or Zoom call or email changes everything.

This post goes out to everyone else grappling with immense or unexpected life changes. It's not "game over" yet. I'm not guilty of "toxic positivity", nor am I belittling anyone's experience. Some of us may be experiencing hardship, but it;s important to keep it "in perspective" .
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JollyRoger · 70-79, M
No toxicity about it! 31 years of a 'solid' career and now its 'layoffs' and no steady prospects...
Despite the layoffs that's a good run.
I recall a time when I was in my 50s and the prospects changed....I tallied up my networth and had a serios talk with an investment counselor.... despite my worries the savings I had accumulated have seen me through. With a bit of lyck, lots of calculating, some cuts to my lifestyle and having worthwhile hobbies...20 years later all is well and the future is bright.

From what you've written you are better off than you think. Have a talk with a knowledgeable person and think of what else you want to do besides the 31 year grind you're trying to get back into.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@JollyRoger I recently changed financial advisors. I'm up 12% this year on my investments! I don't know what my Paramount stock might turn into besides a large order of fries, but I'd still like to keep it if I could to see if the WB acquisition goes through.

Trying my best to begin new musical projects, selling off equipment I'm no longer using, cutting expenses. I replaced my landline backup phone (almost $100/mo) with Ooma($7), cut cable entirely. I freelance where I can. I'm getting interviews, I think the waiting is the hardest part.

The first man who ever hired me in TV said, "Once, I had a career; now I have a job" and that is true in many industries.

It's only going to get better after people discover that AI cannot, in fact, do everything and that moving all labor to countries that pay 7 cents an hour is not yielding a viable product.
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
@uncalled4 I've never lived the lifestyle of a musician - traveling from gig to gig, etc. But I hope that travel has given you a sense of what is "out there" in the way of how other people live and also about the beauty of their environment as well as the beauty of your own (at home).
I'll assume from your age that you're married and the nest is empty.... living costs should be lower. There's one thing I want to impress on you that my investment counselor impressed on me: You've worked, you've saved; your health is not going to get better than what it is right now AND by the time you're 80 (I was getting this advice at 60) no matter how much money you have, you won't be able to afford the medical insurance premiums to go anywhere, so: Use your money while you can still enjoy it; You probably started out with no money and it won't hurt your kids to start learning how to budget and save - so don't save it all up for them. Do it while you can because you'll end up in a rocking chair (or a wheelchair) with regrets if you don't. I'm 75 now and we've been budgeting for one big trip a year and I can say that my savings don't even show a dent for it.
Baybreeze · 41-45, F
I remember the author Byron Katie once said, "I could be out on my front lawn, suddenly homeless, and still be rich." She then followed, that it is what we are 'believing' about ourselves or the world, that makes us happy, not the story of our life. Another quote I love she says is, 'Reality is always kinder than the story we tell of it, but only always.' So we can find joy and goodness in any thing- even if we are jobless, or have cut hours, and your perspective is really positive. Not many really look around and say, it def. could be worse. They magnify literally everything.
I've been jobless a while, and I think to myself how my younger cousin at only 21, took her own life six years ago. :( Or how my sister's friend's sister just died of colon cancer at 40 years old. It truly makes you think, yes things are not 'great' perhaps, but there's still a lot that is Ok.
Life is just crazy now.

We were taught, "if you worked hard, you could eventually get the basics: a home and a comfortable retirement".

That's turned out to be bullshit.

You have love and health and thats something that is priceless 🤗

Solidier on💪
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@OogieBoogie Thank you, friend.

 
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