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I hate watching or encountering others who are really skilled. It makes me insanely envious. There are so many things I've tried and nothing works. I'm past my mid 30's, at the very least, I should have things figured out already. Unfortunately, that's not the case because I'm a loser. I literally have no friends, no skills, and no financial security.
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Silverlady · 70-79, F
You can’t figure out life, you just have to live it. Here’s some advice that may help.

STOP SAYING YOU ARE A LOSER! I put that in caps cause it’s the most important thing. You probably have more going for you than against.

You are still young. Some of the most successful people started way older in life. Google it, do research. Understanding what they went through in life to get where they are now. It might help to motivate you. Most important, don’t compare yourself to others. When you’re watching others with a really great skill, you don’t see how much practice, the hours put in to developing that skill.

I watched a movie called “Bob the Butler” comedy about a guy who was trying to find a job he was good at. He used the yellow pages going through alphabetical one job after another. He was a good guy, tried hard to do his best but {being a comedy} he would burn the place down or something silly like that. He didn’t give up, he knew there was something out there for him.

Like there’s something out there for you. Writing is a good way to start, buy a notebook or journal. You don’t have to write anything specific, try to stay positive about your life. If you feel negative it’s okay to write about it but find something positive in it. Ask yourself questions about what you want in life? What makes you happy? Asking questions might help you figure out what kind of job you would like, something you can be passionate about. It might mean going back to school. Believe in yourself. Nothing in life comes easy. Every evening take the time to write three things you’re grateful for that day. If you don’t write anything do this. It will change you!

Last but not least, if you’re still with me. 😂 finding friends is hard on most people. First you need to find a place to meet people and put yourself out there. I’m an introvert so that’s hard for me. Do you have a place you enjoy hanging out? If not, I would suggest volunteering! It’s a perfect way to help others, while doing so you can meet new people. Also it will help you build a better self esteem.

Sorry for this being so long. Hope it helps.
Thank you. I've always been told that I'm too hard on myself. It just sucks being stressed out all the time. I can't even remember the last time I believed in myself. Just going through life with so many failed chances, it really made me believe that nothing I do is good enough.
Silverlady · 70-79, F
@TodzillaLXIX It’s easier said than done to believe in yourself. It takes time, especially if you have experienced negativity in your life. You have to reprogram your mind every day. This may sound silly but every morning when you’re getting ready for the day really look in the mirror say out loud “I BELIEVE IN MYSELF, I CAN ACHIEVE MY GOALS, AND I AM GOOD ENOUGH! Failure isn’t a bad thing, you learn from it and try again. You only fail if you give up! You got this, I believe in you!
Thank you. That means a lot.
Silverlady · 70-79, F
@TodzillaLXIX Remember one small step at a time. It’s a process. If you want to chat about anything I’m here.
I really appreciate that. 😁