You ever think life tests you?
I mean like.life...throws ppl your way that present the same toxic patterns and life styles you may have fell for at one time ?
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Mamapolo2016 · F
In my opinion, toxic relationships mark us in weird ways. We leave one such relationship, but we don’t leave unscathed. The human animal, like other animals, has ancient skills to find prey.
Our posture, our voice, our eyes, indicate that we have experienced toxic lifestyles and we carry the signs. And the predators can read them.
This is part of the reason we leave one abuser and almost immediately the next one finds us. And it’s part of why people emerging from a toxic environment should NOT seek a new relationship too soon. It feels familiar, it feels comfortable, it’s what we know.
I think of it as “the wounded gazelle” syndrome. The wounded, the weak, the frightened are the ones lions search for.
Our posture, our voice, our eyes, indicate that we have experienced toxic lifestyles and we carry the signs. And the predators can read them.
This is part of the reason we leave one abuser and almost immediately the next one finds us. And it’s part of why people emerging from a toxic environment should NOT seek a new relationship too soon. It feels familiar, it feels comfortable, it’s what we know.
I think of it as “the wounded gazelle” syndrome. The wounded, the weak, the frightened are the ones lions search for.