My Fellow "Mature" Individuals..got to ask you some questions. Next week, I will celebrate my...

I don't think that's unusual, do not go through a midlife crisis. I never went through one either. It's really not just a guy thing. Women do go through a midlife crisis, though it may look different from a man's and is often tied to hormonal changes, shifting relationship dynamics, and the stress of juggling multiple roles. For many women, this period involves self-reflection, mood swings, and sometimes career doubt, exacerbated by the physiological changes of perimenopause and menopause.

I don't know about life beginning at 40. I kind of am laughing but about that. I think that depends on a person's attitude about life.

I'm so happy to hear you're engaged. Congratulations! That's really great.

I think and feel that everyday is a brand new beginning. It is what we make it to be. I believe happiness is not a commodity that can be found, but rather a state of mind that we actively cultivate or create through our choices, perspectives, and actions.

Journaling4Me · 56-60, F

I started to have signs of a midlife crisis when I was 33, because the first generation of kids we raised were teens, and for some reason, that set me off a little. I went to work outside the home and gained a little more independence than I had ever had. It was short-lived lived however. Our daughter had her first child at 16 years old, and she wasn't ready to be a mom, so I came home and became a mom again. By the time our daughter was 21 years old, she had 4 children that my Husband and I were raising, and she had one divorce pending. Our daughter and her first husband asked us to adopt all 4 kids, and we did. We were already raising them anyway. That put an end to my midlife crisis..As far as life beginning at 40...I never experienced that. 🤷‍♀

I feel like I have missed many of the usual milestones of getting older, and I find it hard to fit in with many my age because most folks our age have been done raising children for a long time. The baby from the second generation we raised just turned 21 years old, so we have been parents until now. I missed being really involved with my other grandchildren because I was still being a mother to 4 of our children/grandchildren. I have some feelings of the kids needing me less, and I don't really have a name for that. It isn't an empty nest because the kids still live with us.🤷‍♀

So, I can understand some of how you feel. I don't have any answers, though..

fun4us2b · M

I had a firestorm of family responsibilities and a small bout with cancer between 40 and 60 and now at 66, I'm thrilled I survived it all...and my priority is staying sharp and healthy so I can enjoy what time I have left.

BearLeeDangLing · M

1967 here too. I have never been materialistic or felt like I needed to target anyone based on age. Every day is a new beginning. Life begins each day that you wake and open your eyes. Can't worry about what you didn't do, only what you still can do

Cowboybob · M

I’m enjoying my “later” years immensely! No mid-life crisis needed! Just stay healthy, active and engaged in the community and you will be fine!

Stuffy · 61-69, F

My limited observation is that midlife crisis happens at different ages if at all or manifests in different ways. Same with the life begins at… I guess that’s a maturity thing.

BrandNewMan · M

Same but a bit older .. only I'm divorcing and paying eye watering amounts for her to go away after she spent our whole marriage running from shouldering adult level responsibility alongside me.

Pre-nup my man .. air tight pre-nup

exexec · 70-79, C

My midlife crisis occurred at 35, but I had no money to waste on crazy stuff. I just got a case of the blues that lasted almost all year. I finally kicked myself in the butt, said, "get over it," and didn't let it bother me again.

Thrust · 56-60, M

Never wanted anything flashy. That seemed tacky and pathetic

For me, life has continued one day after another. Usually good, occasionally not 🤷

MayorOfCrushtown · M

i thought that kinda stuff was for rich dudes. LOLOL

Musicman · 61-69, M

I retired at 53 and bought a Mercedes E350.