Are these guys really better than me despite being Indians too like me? Be honest.
So 2 of my dad's colleagues sons named Ayush and Papan are getting married. So Ayush and Papan were in my school too during school days and we basically grew together. Ayush is about 23-24, Papan is also around 24 and I am also 24 but they are already marrying as they have girlfriends and are better settled than me with a job as they started working right after completing their undergrads 2 years ago whereas I went for an MBA after completing my undergrads in engineering and just freshly completed my MBA and was unfairly fired from an internship recently several months ago and now searching for a job. But yeah Ayush got his girlfriend during college and Papan got his girlfriend in around high school itself around 10th grade. Now they are working and almost settled. Both the guys are also Bengali like me living in the city Bangalore but their girlfriends are South Indians like Ayush's gf is a local Kannadiga and Papan's gf is a Tamil Brahmin so maybe they expect their daughter to marry by mid 20s and thats why they are marrying at 24 itself. But yeah many of you probably still consider India traditional but many do get girlfriend in big cities like Bangalore mostly in colleges. Sadly tho I missed out on it due to intense shyness for years. I was bullied and humiliated a lot in 5th to 10th grade by several boys in class especially this boy Arjun who was my biggest enemy. He would not only hit me but also insult me harshly, forcefully make me perform bellydance or act like a dog etc and always be like a shadow near me. Another boy Sai Prasad who was the topper of the class openly belittled me(and he was only mean to me but nice or neutral to everyone else), calling me an error in this world and often convinced others that I was a loser and sometimes even hit me and other boys in class too enjoyed seeing Arjun humiliating me and laughed and even joined in. That made me extremely shy near girls like couldn't even look at them and avoided them. Then in 11th grade, I got chased around and threatened by my seniors who were in 12th grade just because I got crush on a senior girl who happened to have a bf and the bf got mad and turned his friends against me too and seeing my seniors chase me around, a group of 4 construction workers(laborers) who were doing repair works in school tried to intimidate me showing me shovel, brick etc and pretending to chase me despite being adults. Then after 12th grade exams I was heavily isolated in home, no friends, preparing for competitive exams etc.
The shyness even got carried into undergrad years and the gender ratio was heavily skewed with more males than females and most of them are Kannadiga south Indians whereas I was the only Bengali so couldn't overcome my shyness plus long commutes and other guys using me for money or snacks and then Covid pandemic means I couldn't develop socially in college either. Then I started my MBA and in 1st year I still retained some of the shyness and couldn't initiate it with girls even though I had crush on Anshika. Girls initiated sometimes but I couldn't so I missed out in 1st year too and I finally broke out of the shyness last year at 23 during 3rd semester of MBA and started talking to several girls but it was late as 3rd semester was wrapping up and the final semester has been dissertation so no campus life anymore and in the internship I talked and socialized with several female interns but was unfairly fired. I then started cold approaching foreign expat women(I was already doing it last year too tho) in cosmopolitan hubs of Bangalore like UB City mall, Lavelle road, Church Street and started doing it with Indian women too and also dming 20 something women on Instagram but the process is slower as I am done with MBA life so no campus to meet new women organically now and no job yet so no workplace socializing either so mostly relying on cold approaching foreign women and some Indian women or Instagram dms or Linkedin outreach with women. But as you saw Ayush and Papan got a gf and are getting married so do you feel that they are better than me? Or any other guys who can hang out with girls or get gf even in India? It looks like many of you SW users think too I have no hope as some of you also asked me whether my parents will arrange someone but I don't want it and find it outdated.
The shyness even got carried into undergrad years and the gender ratio was heavily skewed with more males than females and most of them are Kannadiga south Indians whereas I was the only Bengali so couldn't overcome my shyness plus long commutes and other guys using me for money or snacks and then Covid pandemic means I couldn't develop socially in college either. Then I started my MBA and in 1st year I still retained some of the shyness and couldn't initiate it with girls even though I had crush on Anshika. Girls initiated sometimes but I couldn't so I missed out in 1st year too and I finally broke out of the shyness last year at 23 during 3rd semester of MBA and started talking to several girls but it was late as 3rd semester was wrapping up and the final semester has been dissertation so no campus life anymore and in the internship I talked and socialized with several female interns but was unfairly fired. I then started cold approaching foreign expat women(I was already doing it last year too tho) in cosmopolitan hubs of Bangalore like UB City mall, Lavelle road, Church Street and started doing it with Indian women too and also dming 20 something women on Instagram but the process is slower as I am done with MBA life so no campus to meet new women organically now and no job yet so no workplace socializing either so mostly relying on cold approaching foreign women and some Indian women or Instagram dms or Linkedin outreach with women. But as you saw Ayush and Papan got a gf and are getting married so do you feel that they are better than me? Or any other guys who can hang out with girls or get gf even in India? It looks like many of you SW users think too I have no hope as some of you also asked me whether my parents will arrange someone but I don't want it and find it outdated.
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