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So I eventually said her fully who I am. Do you feel she can still ghost me?

Last week I posted about this girl Khushbu from my MBA campus who is my junior. So 2-3 months ago I visited my campus for completing some formalities as I am basically done with my MBA and about to graduate. After completing the formalities I socialized with my juniors including Khushbu and mentioned to her that she looks very similar to the girl Khushi who was my classmate during 1st year of my MBA in 2023 to early 2024. She laughed it off saying "Ohh really?" So Khushi was my crush too during starting of my MBA but I was a bit shy and she started dating this guy Harsh in our class and then this girl Anshika became my long crush. Khushi is 24 now, I am also 24 and Khushbu is about 21-22 now. Last week I found Khushbu on Instagram and messaged her and she eventually replied and we had some chats. Its been 2-3 months since our only in person conversation so she was probably not able to fully recognize me so I eventually said her that I visited the campus 2-3 months ago and we already talked about campus life, placements and I also said she looked like Khushi. So today she eventually replied "Ohhhhkkkk. Yeah now I remember you". I am kinda worried tho now whether she will chat more or not tho because I do get ghosted by girls. Just like Khushi, she is also a North/Central Indian and I am Bengali and we live in the city Bangalore, India now. Idk why I am worried that she will probably ghost me too. Her similar looks to Khushi also is making me nostalgic about my MBA 1st year days when I was crushing on Khushi at starting, What do you feel?
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RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
Well, you're doing fine. Just a little constructive criticism is for her, and you too, don't keep making comparisons. For one, it gives the impression you like someone else, and that you comparing her to your former crush it's like you're settling with her by fantasizing another woman through her. Not really appreciating Khushbu for being her, but because she's similar to Khushi. If that makes sense.
But take things with stride, try not to rush them, just remain casual and let the romance blossom naturally. Good luck to you friend!
Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M
@RedGrizzly No i am not comparing her to Khushi. I am saying that only in looks she is similar to Khushi. I am not comparing their personalities
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@Heroisthebest24 okay, well, I don't see why she'd ghost you then because that was the only thing I could really think of? Or she doesn't feel the same way, either way, just be yourself and try not to work yourself up a lot of worry. :) good luck to ya
Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M
@RedGrizzly She didnt ghost me yet. I am just worried whether she will because i got ghosted a lot in the past
Another thing is, youll know if a girl really likes you because you will sense her enthusiasm. She will reply quikly to you, tell you hi regularly and be eager to text and see you. The way you know if she doesnt like you is if she takes long to reply to you or texts one word at a time, this shows she has low enthusiasm towards you, once she stops texting entirely it means your not what she likes. Trust me when a girl likes you, she will make it obvouse and she'll never leave you on read. the only times shell leave you on read is if she lost her phone, lost conmection to internet, or is busy in class or something like that, she will then apologize and quikly report back to you eagerly. But... If shes slow to reply or texts with very few words shows she does not respect you and is not attracted to you.
Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M
@req89hikowquou yes its true that women replying slowly is disinterest but also its true that many Indian women are more reserved and cautious. I tried cold approaching Indian women in Cafes and they are reserved often. There are foreign expats here. Only the western expat women at least talks to me and acknowledges me and we have a decent conversation. East Asian expat women especially Japanese ones also often avoid talking to me and are reserved too. East Asian women usually ignores my greeting or just say no.
@Heroisthebest24 no, usually a woman will put her reserved or catiouse side aside for you if shes really attracted towards you. A girl that likes you, usually will never make you wait very long. Its only Once she sees you in person she will act shy around you but only because she soo excited to see you and she will be nervouse or twirling her hair or something while talking to you. This means shes atttracted to you and will put things aside just to see you. But.... If shes too comfident around you, or shes not shy, or loud, and arrogant around you, this usually means shes not attravted to you sexually and she does not respect your presence. In other words. Girls are nervouse around the ones she likes, and girls are confident and loud around the ones she doesmt like. Most girls are hyper confident around ugly guys and more shy and respectful towards men she does like.
If girls are loud around you most times they see you as ugly. When cold approaching women they will usually keep it short if they do not like you, and they will talk longer and even give you contact details of she does like you. Western woman are more confident but this does not mean they like you, these girls in general have more social interaction than most men will have in their entire lives and does not mean she likes you. They too will feel shy around you if they like you. If they speak to you longer just means they are amused by you but they do not respect you, and arnt attracted to you

And because most woman especially the prettier ones have more social interaction than most men will in their entire lives means they get approached regularly as soon as they turned 14,15 ,16,17,18,19 and up, they are constantly socializing their whole lives because of their beauty and thus have more bigger brains than people who are ugly or never get approached , so if you cold approach these woman they will disrespect you, act more arrogant and quick witted to your face even telling you to leave them alone since they've been socializing since such young ages and already have much more attractive people around them, while your still starting. Meanwhile most men have never really interacted and your brains are smaller physically from constant lack of touch and social interaction. They will sense this & your desperation and cold reject you. Especially the prettier ones.. That's why you must date ugly girls first, and work your way up, but is never guaranteed towards the more prettier ones as they physically have bigger brains from the constant attention and sex they already received since from such young ages, they are much more evolved than men and uglier women mentally. Most men have lower brain cells from lack of sex. The more sex you have the more brain matter and grey matter. The less sex or no sex you have the slower you are & less brain power and grey matter in the brain and the prettier girls can easily sense this and promptly reject.

If she just ignores you entirely usually means they are miles ahead of you mentally and deem you annoying and desperate. & they already know what your trying to do. These girls enjoy flow and meeting partners through fate, and not by being cold approached. Very few woman enjoy this. The only time a girl likes to be cold approached is if your highly attractive or if shes ugly and rarely get approached. But other than that, most girls don't like random guys going up to them. Even if your rich or famouse but not attractive they more than likely will still reject you.

 
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