It’s important to acknowledge that while he may want a child, you would be the one carrying the baby, enduring the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy, and going through a life-changing transformation. Pregnancy is hard on your body, your mind, and your sense of self it’s a physically demanding and sometimes mentally overwhelming journey. The process of birth itself can come with serious complications, both during and after. And even after giving birth, things don’t just settle down. The constant cycle of sleepless nights, feeding every few hours, and the never-ending demands of caring for a newborn can leave you feeling drained and disconnected from your old self.
As your child grows, new challenges arise testing your patience, requiring your time, and demanding your attention. And, of course, there are financial responsibilities that don’t magically take care of themselves. Wanting a child is one thing, but living through the reality of parenthood is a whole different ball game. If you’re not fully prepared, it’s okay to question whether you’re ready to bring a life into the world not just to fulfill someone else’s dream, but for the long haul, for both your sake and the child’s.
If you’re not ready, don’t feel pressured to make such a monumental decision just to avoid blame or guilt.
The reality of motherhood isn’t always easy, and if you’re shouldering the emotional and physical weight alone, you deserve to feel supported, not blamed. Make this choice for yourself, not out of fear or obligation to anyone else.
