He wants children but I dont

We are married for 6 yrs now. I dont want to have a baby but he is insisiting. Becoming a mother is something I never wished for... what can I do? Im afraid he might say yrs later that I deprived him of being a father...I dont want that...

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RosaMarie · 46-50, F

It's not your obligation to achieve his life goals. I assume you were very, very clear and open about this BEFORE you got married?

A lot of how this will go will depend on how it was set up. The best case for you is that you've been clear and unwavering. The worst is that you didn't tell him, and so now it's new.

In the end, the back story only changes how the conversation goes, but not it's content or outcome. He can't force you to have his child. If he won't respect you or simple can't accept your choice, you both need to move on.

Foxygirl32 · 31-35, F

@RosaMarie Tbh, we discussed it before marriage and I was ok abt it. I was even excited. But now I cant. I AM the deal breaker...Everytime I think abt a baby, the responsibility, the way it changes my life , and with the doomed society I live in, I really dont want to bring another soul to this life. I have suffered enough, I dont want to ruin it now that I am finally breathing..

RosaMarie · 46-50, F

@Foxygirl32 That's unfortunate, but you are allowed to change your mind. Even on a critical point like this. Best thing you can do is let him go seek what he wants. Divorce sucks, but probably you will both be happier in the long run.

SomeMichGuy · M

@RosaMarie Rather glib answer for a 45-sec précis.

The OP needs to have a very honest conversation with her husband to really share the concerns / hopes they both have.

Their conversation about their relationship.

RosaMarie · 46-50, F

@Foxygirl32 In light of those on this post ready to condem you for your choice, let me give a counter point. I'm 46. Never married. No kids. I have no regrets. None. I've faced pressure and judgement on both topics my whole life. And I've lived the life I've wanted to live.