People without kids, whether you couldn’t or chose not to. How’s your life now?
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robertsnj · 56-60, M
i am childless and it is good. i made the decision to forgo children when i was 26 . i just sat down thought it out and realized "not for me" Even factored it into dating. Always quick to say "don't want kids" to dates when I was in my 20 and 30's Figured I owed them that information right up front or at least really early on.
I did have an interesting conversation once, with a deeply religous person when I was in my 20's. I told him I decided not have kids and his response was you're selfish. I absorbed what he said, did not argue with him and decided later to a large degree he was right.
25 plus years later i still have my hobbies, i get more "me time" than any parent I know. i have had more side projects, than most people my age. I don' t have (or want) any kids to take to soccer karate, or anything else. When I leave work I don't have dad duties . It does have a selfish componet to it. It seems like many if not most parents, main hobby, often by their own choice, main hobby is parenting. It is something that is good for them. ...but so much for me.
On a sidenote I like the vector @beermeplease is on. I have 3 cats and I love them so much I have had a numbers dogs (now cats) and as a non parent they get a lot of attention I would have given to a child(s).
I did have an interesting conversation once, with a deeply religous person when I was in my 20's. I told him I decided not have kids and his response was you're selfish. I absorbed what he said, did not argue with him and decided later to a large degree he was right.
25 plus years later i still have my hobbies, i get more "me time" than any parent I know. i have had more side projects, than most people my age. I don' t have (or want) any kids to take to soccer karate, or anything else. When I leave work I don't have dad duties . It does have a selfish componet to it. It seems like many if not most parents, main hobby, often by their own choice, main hobby is parenting. It is something that is good for them. ...but so much for me.
On a sidenote I like the vector @beermeplease is on. I have 3 cats and I love them so much I have had a numbers dogs (now cats) and as a non parent they get a lot of attention I would have given to a child(s).
shinyplasticlove · 51-55, M
@robertsnj Exactly. Why someone would call it selfish to not want any kids is kinda weird. My 4 Frenchies are all I need. I can leave them at home for a few hours with no worries. No schooling needed. When I get home I get mega Frenchie snuggles. I have lots of me time even though they are velcro dogs. I have my toys I get to play with also.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
@shinyplasticlove one my super powers is i have thick skin. so instead of reacting emotionally to it i just let him talk about that--i just found it interesting but not offensive also-interesting in the grand tradition of religious people i was listening to his monologue (preaching) instead of having a dialog /
but that part of it was interesting too---he had this canned speech ready to drop on the first person who said no to having kids--- the whole thing was just fascinating to me --and he did have some good points----i do get way way more me time, time to do what I want t do by being childless. i figured he certainly had a point / he was mormon if you were curious
on a side note i would love to be a fly on the wall to both married and divorced parents and listen to their thoughts and convos with other parents on the ups and downs of it and why they decided (or ended up) becoming parents.
but that part of it was interesting too---he had this canned speech ready to drop on the first person who said no to having kids--- the whole thing was just fascinating to me --and he did have some good points----i do get way way more me time, time to do what I want t do by being childless. i figured he certainly had a point / he was mormon if you were curious
on a side note i would love to be a fly on the wall to both married and divorced parents and listen to their thoughts and convos with other parents on the ups and downs of it and why they decided (or ended up) becoming parents.