Where did He / She go?

@ninalanyon
That's a new take on it for me. Never thought of it that way. Saw it more like abandoning or forgetting the old you . Not really like a transformation or a completeness process. Very clever.

@Infamous607 I think it depends on how your life has worked out. In my case I was widowed after a long marriage and found myself with huge holes in my life in addition to aspects that while not actively suppressed had been hidden, glossed over, underdeveloped. The last eight years have been a process of discovery, invention, and reinvention.

I'd like to accept credit for it being clever but really it is simply something that has happened to me, and is continuing.

When I look back on my life now I can see that the beginnings of who I am now were there from the beginning but the practicalities of life get in the way and sometimes only something abrupt and cataclysmic will reveal those aspects.

@ninalanyon
There is quite a few real interesting things in your response. Thank you for taking the time to write . Let me think about it a bit more