Imagine this

Lets see. I always try to think before i speak so that i don't hurt people's feelings. I'm getting better. So, I'm trying to be both sensible and respectful so if it comes out any other way i apologize in advance.

Its hard for me to wrap my mind around the thought that people keep putting themselves in certain situations that can be avoided. You're an adult, you don't have to interact with your brother if he makes you this miserable. Love him from afar. He sounds toxic. Stop putting yourself through that. I've read other posts of yours and he is making your life miserable because you are allowing him to. You are a grown man, he is disrespecting you calling you an incel like you are 10 year olds. You deserve better. Put that dude in your rearview mirror.

Ahh. I love you M.

I hate how common this is in NA. And how circumstances force many to stay in these circles. You have no options. Other people here will not understand that because their lives are drastically different. They are lucky and they make the mistake of mistaking that luck for some type of universal free will.

Autonomy isn't universal.

I am really I am sorry he chose to abuse these circumstances to destroy whatever freedoms you're left to exercise. He is delusional and self-driven and I hope you don't internalize anything he says.

Ignore him if you can

Infidel, you say! He's dropping the old world lingo on you!