No that's the responsibility of the individual.
Unfortunately, it's hard work and requires a lot of consistency and strength. But it can be done.

When you come into the mix you should only reinforce the new boundaries they have in place.

I repaired the dishwasher she broke this morning. The "Manual for Old Married Men" requires that I try to fix everything.

But why?

Prove I broke it. 😜

but but...aren't you a welder?

Sometimes it is necessary that they be reminded.

Oh yeah? Well then I won’t break what you repaired! That’ll show you 😏