My ex that strangled me texted me at 4am this morning to ask me out for coffee

I recently forgave him for what he did a year ago, when I saw him at a social event.

I am happy with the peace.

Since I have gotten a new phone, I didn't have his number or have it blocked.

I should not reply, right? Or should I just say no thank you and explain why?

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froggtongue · M

Either of those would be okay. You owe him nothing. If you text back, be definite. Problem with the latter is that he might consider any type of engagement as positive even if you're telling him otherwise and it might suck you into more conversation with him.

caccoon · 36-40

@froggtongue yeah. 💙💙 I think ignoring him is the better option. It feels a little hard to do, but it shouldn't.

froggtongue · M

@caccoon it can feel that way. Emotions are valid. The better we know our own, the better we navigate them.