Do you keep getting people question the things you like because you can never actually have them for real ?
Like with the whole sex/romance/intimacy thing but expanded to everything about life.
I keep getting people at work asking me if I 'have a girlfriend yet', etc. and I shrug them off by saying 'not interested anymore', but really I am, though I understand how risky and dangerous dating is for a man now so from a risk-vs-reward analysis the risk outweighs any potential reward by at least a factor of 10.
Esp. since I have a house I'm paying off. The risk of having that taken away is so important that to even consider having a potential romantic partner enter my life with underhanded malicious toxic intent (like my last one but I had nothing for her to take then) is pushing into extreme danger territory.
To even *think* about approaching another person you're attracted to and/or interested in is now practically considered a crime, so to actually try it for real is diving into a dark place with no 3 dimensional qualities that can be reconciled.
But what about other things? We all have dreams to some extent, and those dreams are often how we form our goals in the short, medium, and long terms.
I got very very lucky to be able to buy a house 2 yrs ago and there were so many times in that process spanning several years were it could have fallen apart and left me still having to be renting now.
I got very very lucky with my 7 y/o daughter as she might not have been alive now (due to cord prolapse day before she was going to be induced), and her 'mum' could have gone to the nth degree to attempt to force me out of her life. And my eldest daughter has a daughter (nearly 1 y/o) as well.
I got very very lucky in Feb 2011 when I crashed my car due to fatigue driving to work for a midnight start. Car saved my life.
I got very very much in Jan 2001 when major bushfires came close to taking out my house at the time (where I was living with my first ex and my then almost 2 y/o oldest daughter).
So when people mock the things you like but can't or don't have and possibly will never have, the joke is on them because you still know how to value what you do have, even if not much compared to others, and they probably do not.
Be happy for what you have, and respect what others have.
I keep getting people at work asking me if I 'have a girlfriend yet', etc. and I shrug them off by saying 'not interested anymore', but really I am, though I understand how risky and dangerous dating is for a man now so from a risk-vs-reward analysis the risk outweighs any potential reward by at least a factor of 10.
Esp. since I have a house I'm paying off. The risk of having that taken away is so important that to even consider having a potential romantic partner enter my life with underhanded malicious toxic intent (like my last one but I had nothing for her to take then) is pushing into extreme danger territory.
To even *think* about approaching another person you're attracted to and/or interested in is now practically considered a crime, so to actually try it for real is diving into a dark place with no 3 dimensional qualities that can be reconciled.
But what about other things? We all have dreams to some extent, and those dreams are often how we form our goals in the short, medium, and long terms.
I got very very lucky to be able to buy a house 2 yrs ago and there were so many times in that process spanning several years were it could have fallen apart and left me still having to be renting now.
I got very very lucky with my 7 y/o daughter as she might not have been alive now (due to cord prolapse day before she was going to be induced), and her 'mum' could have gone to the nth degree to attempt to force me out of her life. And my eldest daughter has a daughter (nearly 1 y/o) as well.
I got very very lucky in Feb 2011 when I crashed my car due to fatigue driving to work for a midnight start. Car saved my life.
I got very very much in Jan 2001 when major bushfires came close to taking out my house at the time (where I was living with my first ex and my then almost 2 y/o oldest daughter).
So when people mock the things you like but can't or don't have and possibly will never have, the joke is on them because you still know how to value what you do have, even if not much compared to others, and they probably do not.
Be happy for what you have, and respect what others have.
