I might have to live in Ukraine illegally going forward. 👀

It turns out that my husband HAS to meet up in person at the immigration office, to make my yearly permit. His mother thinks it might be a trap, but I doubt that. It sounds like a pretty legit rule, since they make my permit based on our marriage, but of course it's possible that they started catching people there either way. The big problem is still them stopping and recruiting people in cars, hence why he can't risk driving anywhere. His mother thinks I should live here illegally, and I think that might be the best option. I think it can result in me eventually getting banned from Ukraine for some years, but perhaps by that time, the war will be over and he can come with to Denmark. I doubt they would be able to find me in the first place, since they still haven't found my husband here.

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Madmonk · M

Yep. Don’t feed him to that meat grinder. Might be better to self deport to make it easier for him to evade the draft thugs.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@Madmonk We actually just talked with his mother again, and she doesn't think they will find me. Technically they're already looking for my husband and they haven't found him, so why would they find me? It would be best if we don't have to split up.

Elisbch · M

@Nightwings

that's a terrible predicament to be in. 😔. I would have to imagine there are others in the same predicament or similar.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@Elisbch It is very rare for people to move to Ukraine, and most of them probably left Ukraine with their husband's, when the war was about to start. We should have done that too, looking back.

Elisbch · M

@Nightwings

Yes, I would imagine it is rare to move there but what I was referring to is people hiding is probably not uncommon? Men hiding from the military and other reasons like yours. I remember in the beginning when so many were fleeing the country. I probably would have done the same thing although I wouldn't know until I was in that situation.
I hope you both can stick it out and survive together until more peaceful times.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@Elisbch Oh, yes nearly all guys are hiding from the recruiters, they are all in the same boat together. We even had two different delivery drivers give us a link to a "secret" (not so secret) group chat which helps guys avoid recruiters. They also sometimes help with things like taking the trash out for for my husband lol. 😆

Thank you for your kind words! I hope so too. 🌼

Elisbch · M

@Nightwings

That's nice there are people that will help sometimes.

Stay together, stay safe .. for a better future. 🙂🙏🏻