A big thing for me this year is to practice self preservation by matching people’s energy towards me and not getting upset by it
Something that I think really burned me in my last relationship was not matching energy and putting 110% into somebody when I knew they weren’t doing the same for me. It’s exhausting to do that and it’s not sustainable.
This year I really wanted to slow down and if I notice somebody, platonically even, isn’t matching the energy I’m putting towards them, I’m letting it and them go. Not forever, but until there is equal efforts on both sides.
I had a coworker that I really really liked working with and thought we got along super well together. I’ve invited her to do things like 3-4 times and not only does she end up canceling every time, she’s super slow to text me back. At this point last year I would have already gotten upset by her behavior and wondered what’s wrong with me that she doesn’t want to hang out.
Now, even though I am disappointed because I liked her, I’m acknowledging that she’s just not interested and will move my energy to my friends that do want to spend time with me. It’s a very small thing in the grand scheme of things, but I’m trying to develop good habits so that I can be an independent and confident adult.
I’m trying to work on these things so that, when a potential romantic connection comes along, I’m not codependent in any way. That starts by respecting myself by only giving equal effort and preserving my energy. It’s a small win, but a win nonetheless
This year I really wanted to slow down and if I notice somebody, platonically even, isn’t matching the energy I’m putting towards them, I’m letting it and them go. Not forever, but until there is equal efforts on both sides.
I had a coworker that I really really liked working with and thought we got along super well together. I’ve invited her to do things like 3-4 times and not only does she end up canceling every time, she’s super slow to text me back. At this point last year I would have already gotten upset by her behavior and wondered what’s wrong with me that she doesn’t want to hang out.
Now, even though I am disappointed because I liked her, I’m acknowledging that she’s just not interested and will move my energy to my friends that do want to spend time with me. It’s a very small thing in the grand scheme of things, but I’m trying to develop good habits so that I can be an independent and confident adult.
I’m trying to work on these things so that, when a potential romantic connection comes along, I’m not codependent in any way. That starts by respecting myself by only giving equal effort and preserving my energy. It’s a small win, but a win nonetheless
