I wish, such a relationship existed where two people could share how they feel and simply being heard.

No advice. No positivity-ing it away. Just listen, acknowledge and hug. Maybe asking a few questions so that your friend can reflect.

Being heard and human touch seems like the ultimate safety. Not all of our issues can be solved. Some just need permission to exist.

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JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

I remember when I was younger a girlfriend told me "you don't have to fix it!". I truly could not understand at the time; I thought I was being supportive. I have since learned just to empathize unless asked for suggestions.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@JimboSaturn A good bit of wisdom and it takes a while for a man (I think it's a 'man thing') to get to the place of realising that some things are beyond his control and to stop pretending he can fix everything.

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@FreddieUK Exactly I think it's a man thing to try to fix things. We do that to each other.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@JimboSaturn I think the best way to fix that is...oh, hang on. 🙄