I never appreciate anything

All my life I’ve never appreciated anything, I always think when I achieve a goal I’ll be happy but turning 40 I’ve found out that it’s a constant cycle in my life and I’m scared.

Most people have always told me to appreciate what I gave and where I am but unfortunately I can’t seem to appreciate anything.

I’m wondering has anyone ever felt like this and how did they have a change of mentality.

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Miram · 31-35, F

Here too, you need to figure out if your perfectionist tendencies are related to a past parenting style. I do deal with similar things.

Happiness related to achievements is fickle. Contentment as a goal is much more consistent.

Be grateful for what you have, not what you give.

What you have given already never belonged to you and you don't have to hold unto it.

We only truly have our good inner child. Celebrate that self in whatever ways work for you. You will eventually feel less detached from its innate goodness and grateful for having it. And you don't have to express that gratefulness the same way everyone else does. That's overrated. Playing in water with your feet can be still be gratefulness, crying for your own hurt is gratefulness, simply leaving bed for yourself to feed it can be gratefulness. Doesn't matter how others define it.