Am I just mean?

My boyfriend's (34) sister (23) lives with him and she is afraid of the dark.

He has siri activated lights in his house.
So he set up the hallways lights to go on when she's within a close radius.

He is often home, they have a dog and if she's home alone as its an apartment block the hallways light go on which would give her time to turn on the light.

I know it's not a big deal but it's one of the many things he does to "help" her.

I dunno she comes across very young for her 23 years. 😕 Observers perspective.

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mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

23 is still young, and thats actually really nice that your bf is being thoughtful and smart. Lol Itd be red flags if he was cruel to her.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@mooncrest02 I don't think it's cruel if he didn't the light is right at the door...

mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

@Mellowgirl i didnt say he was cruel if he didnt. I said it would be a red flag if he was cruel to her instead of showing compassion. If you want to help her you can search ways to help her get over her fear otherwise why do you have such a problem over what her family does for her?

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@mooncrest02 because it's so much... And she appears to give so little back. Baby of the family or not

mooncrest02 · 31-35, F

@Mellowgirl does this family know you dislike their baby sister? You arent doing anything for her... i just dont understand why it bothers you.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@mooncrest02 I'm observing her... I've been told a lot of things about her without being given the chance to get to know her for myself.
But she doesn't help since she's incredibly rude.
I've stayed over my partners maybe 2 times. Simply because it feels like a student home at his which I'm not comfortable with.

She hardly talks to me, will talk to my boyfriend and leave without having said anything to me.

What I do know of her I'm not exactly impressed with.
I've put it down to different upbringing and her age. But at what stage do you stop accepting her rudeness.