How do you decide which people you let in your life?
Been wondering this lately. Growing up, you realize everybody shouldn't have a place in your life. Curious how you guys decide if somebody is worth having in your life.
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SteelHands · 61-69, M
You actually don't get that luxury if you're the right type of man you just hang on to whatever value for however long you can stand it and throw back the problem ones you usually know quick not to get tangled up with.
A high quality individual is always going to have a long list of people that profess friendship and many will just be single event users.
Long term trust and a mutual ability to identify and get past an erroneous perceived wrong isn't easy to sift out from even a small crowd. And it can be really infuriating that we all have a limited time on the planet when you lose one to the inevitable.
But that's always the missing key isn't it? Always remember that someday people are either going to be -at your funeral. Some might even be celebrating or crying. For them who forgets may he also be forgotten.
I won't mind having a lonely funeral if the alternative is having a bunch of lively s.o.b.s scanning the parlor for an heir to fleece. That's life kiddo. You might think a few times you found a gem. 20/20 hindsight may teach you there was really only one and you blew it. Or they caught the last boat off the planet unceremoniously and you never even realized you lost the only real friend you ever had.
Now you tell me that heaven is a place on earth and I'll tell you not to make too firm a reservation. You might waste the dues on a ticket you should have refused.
Note that your mileage may vary.
A high quality individual is always going to have a long list of people that profess friendship and many will just be single event users.
Long term trust and a mutual ability to identify and get past an erroneous perceived wrong isn't easy to sift out from even a small crowd. And it can be really infuriating that we all have a limited time on the planet when you lose one to the inevitable.
But that's always the missing key isn't it? Always remember that someday people are either going to be -at your funeral. Some might even be celebrating or crying. For them who forgets may he also be forgotten.
I won't mind having a lonely funeral if the alternative is having a bunch of lively s.o.b.s scanning the parlor for an heir to fleece. That's life kiddo. You might think a few times you found a gem. 20/20 hindsight may teach you there was really only one and you blew it. Or they caught the last boat off the planet unceremoniously and you never even realized you lost the only real friend you ever had.
Now you tell me that heaven is a place on earth and I'll tell you not to make too firm a reservation. You might waste the dues on a ticket you should have refused.
Note that your mileage may vary.