I have this deep rooted sexual fear. How can I free myself from this ?

I've done a lot of things. But this is a persistent fear. I don't expect any man to actually being able to understand it. So I'm mostly asking women.
Any of you that's managed to break free from it ?
Or reduce it to a minimum ?
From my understanding, the moment I open myself up, it invites men.
So what I do is I keep myself lower, being less of my feminine, less of a female, so this isn't attracting them as much.
What am I supposed to be doing ? When I relax and simply be, I get guys attracted. And then the forces get into play and sooner or later they're trying to get closer but I don't want to. And then fear arises.

Maybe I'll need to wait another 20 years and I'll naturally be free from it ?
Can I be free from this ?

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I don't have much experience with it but maybe deeprooted fear is the reason why I avoided it all for so many years. Either that or when there was a chance I was completely turned off. The person didn't attract me that way at all.
I wasn't interested in normal sex throughout my entire 20s and preferred kink fantasies instead.

How to overcome it? The only thing that comes to my mind is meeting a man that would make you feel at home and safe. Maybe getting to know someone for a longer time and getting sexual gradually. At least that worked for me when I was a teen.

being · 36-40, F

@CrazyMusicLover thank you.
Closeness is a complex thing at occasions.
It hasn't been for most of my life but it now is..

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@SW-User That's one massive pencil over there. 😳

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@CrazyMusicLover It’s a big worthy note 🤭