I have this deep rooted sexual fear. How can I free myself from this ?

I've done a lot of things. But this is a persistent fear. I don't expect any man to actually being able to understand it. So I'm mostly asking women.
Any of you that's managed to break free from it ?
Or reduce it to a minimum ?
From my understanding, the moment I open myself up, it invites men.
So what I do is I keep myself lower, being less of my feminine, less of a female, so this isn't attracting them as much.
What am I supposed to be doing ? When I relax and simply be, I get guys attracted. And then the forces get into play and sooner or later they're trying to get closer but I don't want to. And then fear arises.

Maybe I'll need to wait another 20 years and I'll naturally be free from it ?
Can I be free from this ?

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kodiac · 22-25, M

Were you abused as a kid? For me the fear comes from past experiences

being · 36-40, F

@kodiac I am not playing victim here. But I was raised strictly Christian which fucked up my concept regarding sexuality. I had an intensely suppressed sexuality which resulted in intensely expressed sexuality at one point in my life. I was putting myself in situations.
But again, I don't think this is a personal thing.
I believe as I wrote again that it's a deep archetypical fear.
I have discussed with real life female friends.
They all agree.