How do I make this decision?

I am so conflicted right now. I feel like I’m either going to have to make a decision that’s going to leave me heartbroken or decide to stay in an area that isn’t the most supportive of me except for my best friend. The opportunity in Charleston is looking more and more realistic, the only thing stopping it is if the negotiations with the seller of the company go bad. But that means I will have to leave Knoxville, I’m not tied to the area. But I made the most amazing friend here. I've cried so many times when I think about leaving. I’m being pulled in two directions and I don’t know what’s right for me. im not working at the moment so an opportunity would be nice and Charleston is offering that but I could get a job here and be ok. How do I decide?

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I don't know you but the potential of what could await you in Charleston sounds exciting to me.

You could also try Charleston out and maybe give it a year or two and if it isn't right you can always go back to Knoxville and get a job there then. At least then you could look back and know you tried Charleston and know for sure it wasn't right vs. staying put and always wondering 'what if' if you would have tried.

PrestonJ · 36-40

It sounds exciting to me too. There is so much to explore from the city to the marshes, to the beach. When I visited I found myself singing on the beach because the waves covered the sound so I felt comfortable enough to sing. I’d say if a place makes me sing it is doing something to my heart.

That’s a good point. I’ve got to stop letting fear fill my head and listen to my heart.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

I know it’s not the same but with technology and ease of travel these days, there are many ways to stay in close contact with a friend. Charleston is a beautiful city. I say give it a try. If you’re that miserable, you can always move back to Knoxville.

I have found in my life that I regret far more of the things I didn’t try than the things I did. 🙂

PrestonJ · 36-40

We do a lot of our communication by phone so it wouldn’t be much different, she’s so busy with her two kids and family. I just keep putting it in my head that it will fall away if I don’t stay here. But hey, maybe that’s what I need to think in order for me to make the effort to keep it. I do like Charleston and it feels so good to think about a new place, near the beach, with a dog and a new camera. It kind of feels right, if I’m truly honest with myself. Thank you, I needed that.

smiler2012 · 56-60

@PrestonJ 🤔i really can understand your dilemma on one hand you are in a place that really cannot offer you a very bright future i think leaving this friend is also playing on your conscience , then you have a chance of a bright future in charleston where you may get more opportunity too get on and if you are ambitious enough go places . too me it is a simple choice go forward this good friend will not stop being so you can always keep in touch and visit. i do not want too sound selfish but you may regret it if you not take this chance as with your age you may never get a golden opportunity again

PrestonJ · 36-40

@smiler2012 I think I’m leaning in that direction. It’s true, leaving her is playing on my conscience. It’s the only thing that is making it where I’m not easily all in on the new adventure. We’ve become so close and I’m just letting fear sneak in and fuck with me by thinking that our friendship will fade away because of distance like other friendships have.

smiler2012 · 56-60

@PrestonJ 🤔well not too sound harsh you have posed this question and people can advice you but at the end of the day it is your call only you can make this decision . you need too do what you think is best for you and what your heart and mind tells you and stick too it

Shadyglow · F

how about tossing a weighted coin?

or an unweighted one.

How to choose????? Just remember your values and what might get overlooked with a certain choice...and then weigh your needs carefully in terms of what values might get relatively honored/disregarded...

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