Is there really such a thing as tough love

either between friends or parents or partners
or is it just an excuse for non-love and abuse

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SW-User

My parents did the tough love thing. Left me crying in the crib. Bloody noses. Don't tell them how you feel unless you want to get laughed at.

I hated it. Now I've got a crusty shell.

NinaCherry · 26-30, F

@SW-User bloody noses?

NinaCherry · 26-30, F

@SW-User "Don't tell them how you feel unless you want to get laughed at." yes thats exactly what i am referring to!

SW-User

@NinaCherry yeah when my dad thought I was being sensitive he would hit me in the nose.

It's hard growing up thinking nobody cares how you feel.

NinaCherry · 26-30, F

@SW-User i didnt mean actual physical abuse, just not being kind and conscious of somebodys feelings. tough love if i tell my daughter "u r fat like a pig" rather than show her ways of losing weight