Empathy and Emotional Intelligence …

Empathy is an important aspect of emotional intelligence … Empathy is the ability to share and understand the feelings of another person ….

Empathy involves putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and see things from their perspective ….

It allows us to connect with others on a deeper level, to feel their pain or joy and respond in a way which is appropriate and helpful …

How empathetic are you??

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acupaday · 46-50, F

While it’s a good trait to have when dealing with people in the various ways we do to forge and build relationships, I learned a long time ago that being too receptive to the emotions of others can be a problem. I get so overcome by the struggles/emotions of others that my deep empathy for them easily overrides my ability to keep any kind of intelligence and strength at the forefront. It truly makes me feel like a weak person instead of the strong one that can bear so much from others. …I don’t like it. This year with everything I’ve had going on I narrowed down a lot of my empathetic triggering to the reactions of others, especially when it’s in response to something I’ve put out there. I can be so strong sharing bad news, but the second someone reacts with an ounce of sympathy I instantly feel their sadness and I break…severely. It’s ridiculous to admit but it’s almost like in that moment my empathy punishes me for bringing darkness to another. So as a defense mechanism I’ve stopped sharing bad news in person not only because I don’t want to bring any kind of sadness or pain to others, but also because I simply don’t want to hurt my heart and soul anymore than I have to. Being this empathetic is just too much and man, what I’d give to have a healthy level of it instead of what I’ve been given.

Soossie

@acupaday

Oh wow!! You’re too empathic and that’s because you have a truly kind heart …

I understand your very valid point … maybe that’s why we need to manage and create a balance between our own emotions and being empathetic towards others …

It’s sooo good to see you back and I hope that things are well with you and in your life … 🤗🌹😘

acupaday · 46-50, F

@Soossie 🤗

Creating those boundaries are a must in situations like that. And it can be incredibly hard to do if your emotional maturity never learned how to flourish properly. So much of our adult lives is spent retraining our mind how to process information and apply responses to everything thrown at us in a way that brings us as much internal peace as possible. Being able to create healthy boundaries, even with yourself, is just one part of that restructuring. We’re forever growing…learning. Just wish there was a fast lane for some of it.

Soossie

@acupaday

That’s why we get wiser by living life, learning and applying the lessons we learn … 🌹

Handfull1 · 61-69, F

@acupaday incredibly well said. Our biggest strengths are often our biggest weaknesses!

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@acupaday Well said. You have a beautiful heart worth protecting. 🤗✌🏻