I don't mean someone who cut you off in traffic or forgot your birthday. I mean someone who can peg the DSM meter(Criteria below) You need not satisfy every one. They're the worst.
Got it? Anyone you know with this disorder?
For me, it's my girlfriend's mother. I won't bore you with everything; suffice it to say that nothing you do is ever good enough(or even the "right" thing). I've been criticized harshly for: --Bringing her brownies from the bakery --Visiting sick family members in the hospital --Attending the wake and funeral of my girlfriend's father(her husband; I actually got a "review")
Years ago, I was informed that she kept in regular touch with my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend. Then she wonders why I want nothing to do with her.
Today, I found out that she talks to his family too.
The ex died two years ago.
This is what I'm talking about.
Anyone else dealing with these loathsome individuals?
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I married one, his mother is one, gets bad when you have to start googling their behaviours, gas lighting was a good one. Constant lies, cheating, twisting conversations.
I could write a book 📖 I could even predict his behaviours 🙄 It totally broke me, still healing from it all.
I see that now, one thing I can’t stand is someone that twists words! Even though it’s there in black and white, my ex did this all the time, I guess it’s triggers me. 😤
Well you read it wrongly! And I kept explaining that! You twisted that too.
SW-User
@HootyTheNightOwl Yep I had to deal with that a lot! I’m a bit sensitive to it now, it definitely affects me more when people do it. it’s a huge red flag.
@SW-User I'm overly sensitive to people who try to play down other people's experience of abuse.
At the end of the day, you and the abuser are the only two people who will ever know all the facts of what happened - so who has the right to try to tell you that you weren't abused by a narcissist???
It was abuse, you were obviously traumatized by it - the last thing you need to be worried about is if you are using the term accurately or not.
Short of being a trained professional, chances are good that more of us use it inaccurately than not.
