I don't mean someone who cut you off in traffic or forgot your birthday. I mean someone who can peg the DSM meter(Criteria below) You need not satisfy every one. They're the worst.
Got it? Anyone you know with this disorder?
For me, it's my girlfriend's mother. I won't bore you with everything; suffice it to say that nothing you do is ever good enough(or even the "right" thing). I've been criticized harshly for: --Bringing her brownies from the bakery --Visiting sick family members in the hospital --Attending the wake and funeral of my girlfriend's father(her husband; I actually got a "review")
Years ago, I was informed that she kept in regular touch with my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend. Then she wonders why I want nothing to do with her.
Today, I found out that she talks to his family too.
The ex died two years ago.
This is what I'm talking about.
Anyone else dealing with these loathsome individuals?
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I married one. My father is one. My mother in law is a nightmare of one. Im quite familiar with the exhausting emotional roller coaster of dealing with them. Im fully aware that im of little value, i dont know anything and if anyone else is available they will take them instead.
@nonsensiclesnail Thanks. It took about four months and a clandestine appearance at my house in which she punched a hole in a wall, but I'm damn glad I kicked her to the curb.
@uncalled4 I am. He has tried really hard in the last few years to be nice to me and even. Seems to maybe like me. As long as i dont talk much, ask much, need much. And pretend to not see things. Or know things. As long as I accept him for who he is.
@nonsensiclesnail I'm sorry you're in that situation. As for my gf, she is going to go no contact, which I know hurts her, but the toxicity that oozes from that woman is tangible; there's just no talking to her.
@uncalled4 She’s making the right choice. Im glad. She is able to do that. I have no doubt it will be hard for her, but i do wish her the best. It’s not easy. They dont take “no” well at all. And absolute silence? Not allowed. Does she have a strategy to keep her away?
@uncalled4 At least you have the shut in think in thing working in our favor! That is a shocking amount of dogs. I dont know how people can do that. I have two and they are like having two toddlers. 12?? That would take up allll my time. I’d hate that.
We had two dogs at home while I was growing up, and the second not for long because he went to a farm from what I recall - as a grown ass adult, i know what that means and it breaks my heart. We never had anything for long, and his affection for us was the same. Is the same… My father was a body man, not a car guy, he just repaired and painted them. But we had, from the time I was two to the time i was 9 - 87 different cars, and i dont ember if that includes all teh motorcycles. We had middle of the night closet cleanings where dad would throw everything away that he deemed unimportant. Like all my toys. He doesn’t like anything very long.
What I find interesting is that my husbands mother is the same way, only shes a hoarder. Similar the same regard, everything is expendable except what she deems as important, but with a totally different method.
@nonsensiclesnail They're just children and want what they want. And animals provide a neverending supply. There really ought to be something official linking narcs to animal hoarding. I see it often.
