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OogieBoogie · F
In general, yeah. Specifically, no.
Culture, physiology, social 'training and expectation', and the fact that we need time off to bear children ....all have a HUGE impact on our ability to develop careers.
In fact we have to buck norms, learn harder, give up motherhood, and become 'emotionally like men are socially trained to be', to even come close to the benchmark of equality, (generally speaking).
But then ....we need to consider that this is what men have given up and been 'socially trained' to conform to as well: breadwinners before Father's and partners.
Yes, women have it harder in general. We have had less historical time to condition ourselves to the brutal machine of 'jobwinner and moneymaker'.
Men have been at it for Sooooo much longer .
They have their power base.
But at what cost ?
Not knowing their kids 🤷
Never really winding down to just 'be'.🤷
Losing g the ability to connect with their partner🤷....all work and worry .
Yeah men prolly have it over women on the job front ....but women have it over men in connecting with life, their children, inner peace .
We are still far from equality .
Too often we define it by our income .
I wish we would start defining it by heart ...by human connection, by grace, by peace.
The question is ....should we allow this social structure to define our success by our job?
Is it truly a win if you earn a six figure sum, drive the lastest SUV, but never jump in puddle with your kids, stop to awe at a raindrop on a leaf projecting prisms, or make true spiritual love to your partner ?
Is THAT success ?
Is that a life well lived?
Is that what you'll reminisce before you die ?
Culture, physiology, social 'training and expectation', and the fact that we need time off to bear children ....all have a HUGE impact on our ability to develop careers.
In fact we have to buck norms, learn harder, give up motherhood, and become 'emotionally like men are socially trained to be', to even come close to the benchmark of equality, (generally speaking).
But then ....we need to consider that this is what men have given up and been 'socially trained' to conform to as well: breadwinners before Father's and partners.
Yes, women have it harder in general. We have had less historical time to condition ourselves to the brutal machine of 'jobwinner and moneymaker'.
Men have been at it for Sooooo much longer .
They have their power base.
But at what cost ?
Not knowing their kids 🤷
Never really winding down to just 'be'.🤷
Losing g the ability to connect with their partner🤷....all work and worry .
Yeah men prolly have it over women on the job front ....but women have it over men in connecting with life, their children, inner peace .
We are still far from equality .
Too often we define it by our income .
I wish we would start defining it by heart ...by human connection, by grace, by peace.
The question is ....should we allow this social structure to define our success by our job?
Is it truly a win if you earn a six figure sum, drive the lastest SUV, but never jump in puddle with your kids, stop to awe at a raindrop on a leaf projecting prisms, or make true spiritual love to your partner ?
Is THAT success ?
Is that a life well lived?
Is that what you'll reminisce before you die ?