Help. I think I'm going to lose it
He's getting married soon. And I don't think I'll be able to live through it.
31-35, F
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It will be all right. Find something to bury your thoughts in — a stack of books you force yourself to read even if it might not interest you at that moment, some sort of creative project.
Just remember that these feelings will pass, and everything will be all right in time. Just keep breathing.
Just remember that these feelings will pass, and everything will be all right in time. Just keep breathing.
assemblingaknob · 31-35, F
@DunningKruger no. Everyone is going to look at me, waiting for a reaction. Will I attend his wedding? Will I be able to still come to work? How will our dynamics change?
How am I going to face him every single day for the next 2 years? I love him too much.
How am I going to face him every single day for the next 2 years? I love him too much.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@assemblingaknob Yes, that's really difficult. Just some thoughts:
You are not obligated to attend the wedding. It is probably best if you don't, actually.
Working with him will certainly open that wound every day. Other than finding a new job, I don't know what you can do.
Honestly, the best sort of dynamic to have with him now is no dynamic.
Your feelings for him are strong. And that's never really going to go away. The best you can do is find a way to learn to live with it. That's going to be extra hard if you have to engage with him every day.
I'm really sorry you're experiencing this. If leaving your job isn't a possibility, then I'm afraid you're just going to have to bare-knuckle it. And to do that, you're just going to have to accept the reality of the situation. He didn't pick you. It isn't that you're not deserving. You are deserving of love. Unfortunately, it simply didn't work with him. You have to accept that and find a way to move on.
Yeah, it's hell. But it will get better in time.
You are not obligated to attend the wedding. It is probably best if you don't, actually.
Working with him will certainly open that wound every day. Other than finding a new job, I don't know what you can do.
Honestly, the best sort of dynamic to have with him now is no dynamic.
Your feelings for him are strong. And that's never really going to go away. The best you can do is find a way to learn to live with it. That's going to be extra hard if you have to engage with him every day.
I'm really sorry you're experiencing this. If leaving your job isn't a possibility, then I'm afraid you're just going to have to bare-knuckle it. And to do that, you're just going to have to accept the reality of the situation. He didn't pick you. It isn't that you're not deserving. You are deserving of love. Unfortunately, it simply didn't work with him. You have to accept that and find a way to move on.
Yeah, it's hell. But it will get better in time.