Do you have to be 100% done being angry to "forgive" someone?

@akindheart When it’s that bad I give it to God and let Him take it for me. There are some things that only He can understand, things that will affect a person for the remainder of their lives.

@cherokeepatti true. i was bitter at my exhusband for years. he never paid, he never suffered. I felt like life was not fair. then he got it big time.

@akindheart I was looking up an old friend who used to be a neighbor back in the 70’s on Facebook, my ex was on her list of friends as he was friends back then with her husband. I went to his FB (didn’t know he knew how to use the internet but anyway) and saw his photo. He seems to be a hollow shell now. Couldn’t even muster a smile for the photo. When that friend saw me the for the first time I was working at Walmart 11 years ago she hadn’t seen me in a long time and said “I heard that you had moved to Chicago.” I told her that was strange, I had worked for 25 years at the university before retiring and didn’t move anywhere. She told me “Oh he is not doing so good these days”. His sister-in-law also said something about going out to check on him every once in a while with her husband. Apparently he has run off anyone who really cared for him & tried to help him. He had a self-admitted alcoholic as a roommate and he died a few months ago. The whole point of this is even when you think someone has never suffered maybe they have, not in the way you think that they should have for what they did to you but every day that passes by they will reap a bit of what they’ve sown until it hits them that there is no one else who will care for them. That has to be a special type of hell for someone who is a user. And that sister-in-law who encouraged his brother to go check on him has also died this past fall and so she’s not there either.