I was watching X Files the other day and this woman said something like kids who die, are possibly escaping a bad life...

And thought hang on a minute, you got a point there. Life can be difficult. It makes me feel a bit better about how in The Bible, God sometimes ordaines the killing of children. He's just taking them home. That's not to say it's not probably one of the hardest things a parent/family can go through.. It's a different perspective. Sorry if this is difficult for you to hear.